Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

HOCD Ok so I went to the therapist for the first time and it was horrible. I told her how I feel and she started telling me things like "It's ok to be bisexual or lesbian" and she was basically trying to convince me that I am the whole time. And told her that I know there is nothing wrong with being bisexual or homosexual but she wasn't understanding. I told her that I found out something called HOCD and that I'm having all the symthoms, but she kept saying that there's nothing wrong, that I should follow my heart, etc. Now I'm much more confused and anxious, I don't know if it is actually HOCD or if I'm really bi/lesbian. Please help. Should I stay with this therapist? It was like she wasn't listening to me and she didn't mention even once that it could be HOCD. I'm so confused and frustated.

Jansen0495

Date posted: 5y

This is terrible, leave as soon as possible. You need a therapist who understands and not tries to convince you

Carl Cornett

Date posted: 5y

This is the challenge with a therapist who isn’t literate in OCD, sometimes they end up doing more harm than good. If a specialist isn’t available, then you should consider using a therapist through this app!

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

I would love to talk to a therapist from this app, but unfortunately I'm not from the USA.

Carl Cornett

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 I’m sorry to hear! Maybe voice your concerns or ask for a referral.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@CSquared Thank you for your help :)

Carl Cornett

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 You’re welcome! Some of us have a group Snapchat if you’d like to join!

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@CSquared I would love to! My Snapchat is lucy_g1907

Carl Cornett

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 Added!

Nickerino

Date posted: 5y

Hi Lucy. This does seem like the therapist misunderstood your symptoms. However, she may have also been trying to get you to overcome HOCD by making you less anxious of the possibility but telling that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being homosexual. I used to have HOCD before I developed POCD, and I stopped having HOCD once I stopped being afraid of the possibility as something negative. That may have been what she was trying to do. I could be wrong though. Either way, try to find a new therapist if you're not comfortable.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

Maybe she was trying to do that. But it makes me feel more confused and anxious. I'm also afraid to just stop thinking about being bi/lesbian as something negative. What if I accept that I'm bi/lesbian and once I do it this will come out? Like I know I'm straight deep in my heart but what if once I accept the thought I finally turn out homosexual or bi? That's scaring me. I just can't stop thinking about being bi/lesbian as something negative. I'm gonna try it one more time with this therapist but I feel really uncomfortable.

hopeful4healing

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 I’ve been there and I understand that fear but no you won’t

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@hopeful4healing How much time did it take for you to recover?

hopeful4healing

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 Before I worked on recovery I was stuck for 3 or 4 months but once I got the help I needed it was a couple of weeks and I saw some improvement

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@hopeful4healing That's good! I hope you keep improving

Nickerino

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 I was just trying to give you an alternate perspective. Plese do not force yourself to go if it's very uncomfortable. You can find another therapist.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@NickC Yeah, I know. I will try it one more time to see if something changes or I'll ask her about it. Thank you tho

notfortalk

Date posted: 5y

My former therapist tried to do the same, she made me even more anxious so I stopped going and found a cbt specialist to get a proper therapy and diagnosis

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

Oh that sounds great! I may try to do the same if this therapist doesn't work. How did that go though?

notfortalk

Date posted: 5y

@Lucy1907 With the first therapist I kinda ghosted her. Currently I'm seeing a cbt therapist. He's helped in a lot of areas regarding anxiety and ocd. However the ones I'm still struggling with are hocd and tocd. But I'm also learning as I go

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@notfortalk That sounds good. I hope you keep improving :)

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