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Try not to be judgmental of them. Lean into them and explore them, and the fear will dissipate therefore and consequently the ruminations will lose their power. Here for you!
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Some people find it more helpful to think of it as also agreeing with the uncertainty rather than just the thoughts. A tip I learned in therapy is that when you’re saying something like “maybe I’m not attracted to adults” you’re really saying “I’m uncertain and I’m going to be okay with that uncertainty.” At the bottom of every “what if” question is not only the fear of being bad or deviant in some way, but also the fear of not being able to say anything with 100% certainty. That’s what we need to be okay with, too.
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Accepting them isn't the same as agreeing with them, you should just accept that the thoughts are there and not fight them. I myself have struggled for the past 8 months with the thought that I might not love my partner. Trying to prove to myself otherwise just made my anxiety and obsessions worse. I've been doing better over the last couple of months. It was very hard at first but I had to just let the thoughts be there, acknowledge them, don't agree with them, but don't try to disprove them either. I'm finding this easier and easier each day and noticing more and more how happy I am in the relationship. I do still get the thoughts though but I'm hoping they'll continue to decrease in frequency. Even if they don't it's fine.
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Try to accept them if you can and let them be there dont fight them or change them in anyway if you can
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Ocdont I'm trying to do the same aswell it's hard but I'm trying just gonna keep trying
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I am 15 years old and my POCD feels like its not POCD, i feel like i like my intrusive thoughts, but i have more intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts, and i feel like i cant enjoy the things i normally enjoy anymore, like calling with my girlfriend and joking with her because this is still in the back of my mind, its making me question morals and if i ever even viewed P as completely wrong and i hate this so much, i love my nieces and nephews and when they're over i know id never do anything with my intrusive thoughts but when they arent present i feel like i like my thoughts. Before this i was dealing with HOCD and ROCD and i wish i could go back to that
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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