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Try not to be judgmental of them. Lean into them and explore them, and the fear will dissipate therefore and consequently the ruminations will lose their power. Here for you!
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Some people find it more helpful to think of it as also agreeing with the uncertainty rather than just the thoughts. A tip I learned in therapy is that when you’re saying something like “maybe I’m not attracted to adults” you’re really saying “I’m uncertain and I’m going to be okay with that uncertainty.” At the bottom of every “what if” question is not only the fear of being bad or deviant in some way, but also the fear of not being able to say anything with 100% certainty. That’s what we need to be okay with, too.
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Accepting them isn't the same as agreeing with them, you should just accept that the thoughts are there and not fight them. I myself have struggled for the past 8 months with the thought that I might not love my partner. Trying to prove to myself otherwise just made my anxiety and obsessions worse. I've been doing better over the last couple of months. It was very hard at first but I had to just let the thoughts be there, acknowledge them, don't agree with them, but don't try to disprove them either. I'm finding this easier and easier each day and noticing more and more how happy I am in the relationship. I do still get the thoughts though but I'm hoping they'll continue to decrease in frequency. Even if they don't it's fine.
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Try to accept them if you can and let them be there dont fight them or change them in anyway if you can
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Ocdont I'm trying to do the same aswell it's hard but I'm trying just gonna keep trying
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I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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I am 15 years old and my POCD feels like its not POCD, i feel like i like my intrusive thoughts, but i have more intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts, and i feel like i cant enjoy the things i normally enjoy anymore, like calling with my girlfriend and joking with her because this is still in the back of my mind, its making me question morals and if i ever even viewed P as completely wrong and i hate this so much, i love my nieces and nephews and when they're over i know id never do anything with my intrusive thoughts but when they arent present i feel like i like my thoughts. Before this i was dealing with HOCD and ROCD and i wish i could go back to that
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