- Username
- MeMeMe
- Date posted
- 6y ago
- Username
- ArukawiArukawi
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I'm not scared of being gay per se, but like others have said I'm afraid I don't know who I am and I've been hiding it even from myself! I'm 24 and in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend but I'm constantly worrying about if I'm lying to him about really loving him, or if I'll leave him for a woman. Ultimately I'm afraid I'll hurt my loved ones because I can't get it together and figure out who I really am :(
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- cookiescookies
- Date posted
- 6y ago
it isn’t that i am scared of being gay, it is that i feel unsure and that i am lying to myself and others when i flirt, talk to, or think i like a guy. i think, oh no, what if i actually like girls and i was wrong all along? am i different than i thought? it’s the change that scares me and uncertainty.
- Username
- Cat_attack Cat_attack
- Date posted
- 6y ago
It’s more the fact that it’s your OCD. I had fear of being a lesbian for YEARS. Yet I was never homophobic. What was terrifying was feeling like I was losing my grip on reality,as in how could I have not known I was gay?! Have I been suppressing these symptoms my whole life?! And so on..this is what made it terrifying.
- Username
- MeMeMeMeMeMe
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Oh okay. I understand now. Thank you both for sharing.
- Username
- Tolly537Tolly537
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I struggle with these thoughts and they are not fears about being homosexual. I am a heterosexual women and have felt that way ever since I was a little girl. And I have always dreamed of being with a guy I loved for the rest of my life, but then these thoughts came up! They say what if your lying to yourself and others. The uneasiness and fear comes from the thought you have to live a life (for me, being lesbian) that would not be pleasurable to you now and in the future. It is truly debilitating.
- Username
- trishmarietrishmarie
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Our you just curious asking like how a person who is gay would be scared?
- Username
- MeMeMeMeMeMe
- Date posted
- 6y ago
No, I was wondering about people who have intrusive thoughts that they might be homosexual and it frightens them.
- Username
- MeMeMeMeMeMe
- Date posted
- 6y ago
That make sense (in an ocd kind of way) ha I get it now.
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- Username
- Melony
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’ve never heard of HOCD. When I read about it, it says “fear of being homosexual when you are straight or vice versa,” yet it’s still called “homosexual OCD.” I’m a lesbian and I am having a hard time wrapping my head around this concept because honestly the symptoms sound kind of homophobic? Constantly FEARING you might be gay? I’m trying to think of it from other people’s perspective and trying not to be insensitive, it’s just that when I was questioning my sexuality it’s because I was actually gay, and the symptoms sound a lot like someone just discovering their sexuality but being struck with fear and hiding it. Thoughts?
- Username
- anna banana
- Date posted
- 5y ago
hey, i have a question to people with obsessions and intrusive thoughts about sexual orientation. i too have a little tiny amount of worries about being any other sexual orientation than i think i am now, but they dont bother me that much. i see a lot of people here have these thoughts in huge portions. my question is, what is it that makes you afraid of it? i know this could seem like a really rude question, but its asked out of curiosity; does it have to do with internalised homophobia? or is it because your current sexuality is very strong and being anything else would completely change your identity? i just wonder a lot
- Username
- Ocd Won’t be...
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Can someone explain to me the difference between HOCD and questioning your sexuality? I see several posts regarding fears about having romantic feelings towards the same sex and I wonder if that really means someone is gay and afraid to admit it to themselves? I’m not asking to be offensive, I really just don’t understand that form of OCD.
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