Hi all, I'm really struggling with HOCD, I am a married straight man, it started off when I was at work and someone mentioned about a tv presenter coming out as Gay after having 2 children and a wife etc. For some reason this has really triggered me and I instantly started thinking oh my god what if that was me? What if I'm gay etc. And now I have been off of work for a week. I did have sexual activity from my wife which got rid of the thoughts for almost a day, but then they have come back!!!??? Also it may help you all to understand. I do not find men attractive, I do see and understand a good looking person but I am not physically attracted to men. But feel like my brain is trying to convince me otherwise. I have been prescribed sertraline (Zoloft) and I am waiting for that to kick in, does anybody know what I can do?

Ginger77

Date posted: 5y

u don't sound gay to me

ryan111

Date posted: 5y

Haha I know and when I'm in logical mode I'm fine. But I need help just switching off my intrusive thoughts.

drivingmecrazy

Date posted: 5y

You need to accept the fact that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, & you're allowed to be attracted to whoever you want! You need to stop being so scared, because you sound like a homophobe.

drivingmecrazy

Date posted: 5y

@Greenwhale I believe having desires about someone from the same gender is completely normal. I've been married to a man for 10 years, yet I know it's okay to like girls because some girls just look irresistible. There's just nothing wrong with it.

Carl Cornett

Date posted: 5y

@drivingmecrazy HOCD is another subset of OCD that many people suffer from.

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Date posted: 5y

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ryan111

Date posted: 5y

No is that something you recommend?

ryan111

Date posted: 5y

@Greenwhale Thanks greenwhale, I know that rattionally it's just me, it didn't help that I have had low libido for a while due to pre-workout drinks then when that triggered me I have just been suffering for a straight week now. Thanks for reading and responding :)

? ilshid

Date posted: 5y

The more you read posts and stories written by people with OCD, the more you come to realize that that is simply what it is. Whenever I feel bad and like it's starting to come back, I read some posts here and try to help people if I can. I recognize the thought patterns and that makes me realize that it's just intrusive thoughts. I'm getting a bit worried though that that might become a compulsion but it doesn't feel that way, at least not right now

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