Please Read. Hey I'm going through some friendship problems that are made worse with my OCD and Social Anxiety Disorder and I need some advice. Please. I've never had any TRUE friends my whole life but I feel recently I have met some, I've known them for about 10 months when I moved near. My best friend, Anna, recently moved away but most of our group thought she was just a silly nutcase. But I see her for who she is and I love her. My go-to friend when I'm depressed, Sabrina, becanes friends with me after one day I had a really bad panic attack and dumped all my shit on her like a total asshole but nonetheless she would tell me that she cared about me and that were friends no matter how many times my insecurities made me question it. She has no idea how much I appreciate and Respect her. Another friend is Jessica, she also has OCD and her and I are alike in some ways. Her simply being there reminding me that I'm not the only one is really comforting. This week I was depressed because Sabrina was unusually cold to me (later I found out that she is going through something and is being to everyone because she is sad) and I told Anna that I was depressed and thought that Sabrina was fed up with my bullshit. Anna told me that one time she saw Sabrina and Jessica laughing at me behind my back after Sabrina complained about me. I was really hurt and depressed I immediately texted Sabrina very accusingly and she got so offended that I believed it and told me never to speak to her again after saying "thank you" so that she wouldn't have to deal with me anymore. Then I spoke with Jessica much nicer, she was hurt but understood that I was hurt and panicked and didn't stay mad but also said that it wasn't true. I told Anna that I didn't believe the story and she got mad and hurt from that, later she thought back and remembered that it wasn't even Sabrina but Jessica and another girl. I'm really mad at Anna but I don't know if she was lying or was confused because she overhead half of a conversation half a year ago. I need advice for 3 things. 1. Sabrina is going through something and her best friend suggested that I give her space but I want to help her while she is depressed and be a better friend, what should I do? 2. In the new story, Jess was laughing at with someone else but I know it's not like her because she knows that I have OCD too. Should I confront her again? She asked me to drop the subject. 3. Anna says she's being serious and I don't want to think that she lied to me and was just confused but right now due to this, two of my best friendships are on hold. What do I do??

blondehairyK...

Date posted: 5y

1- she needs her space, so keep to yourself and allow her time to do her healing. When you do happen to cross paths, be stoic and kind. Don't expect anything back. Look up stoicism on youtube. 2- it was a misunderstanding, and an unfortunate one. Even if they did talk like that, you must be strong and be above it. Everyone talks and laughs, its expression and communication, learning. Try not to hold it against them. Nobody is as great a person as we want to be. Re: stoicism. 3- maybe she is trying to look out for you, but she hasn't done a very good job at that in this situation. If she wasn't sure, why did she bother bringing it up just to make a mess of it? Maybe keep a bit of distance from this one if she Has a habit of doing that.. some people are good at manifesting drama out of small nothings, and that is not Healthy in general, and not fair to you as a friend. ReRe: stoicism in conclusuon, give yourself some space too! You don't need anyone but yourself, and you are okay, even if you are stressing right now. It's a little cloud over the sun that will blow away in a moment.

blondehairyK...

Date posted: 5y

I hope that advice helps you, I just want you to know that you will be just fine! Have patience and literally keep your chin up.

Itz

Date posted: 5y

Thank you so much for going out if your way to find this post, I really appreciate it. I'll look up stoicism, it sounds familiar but I don't know the proper definition. Sabrina's friend, who also is a friend of mine told me that I need to appreciate myself more and you both are right. Thank you. PS, He told Sabrina that I was broken up about our "fight", she said that she's really hurt especially because she really cares about me and he thinks after the weekend she'll want to talk to me. It hurts me that I hurt her but it conforts me to know that she really really does care.

blondehairyK...

Date posted: 5y

Aw see! Hard times come and go, but good friends will always come back to you❤ you take care of yourself hun! Love is the answer?

Itz

Date posted: 5y

Thank you so much, you too!

Itz

Date posted: 5y

Hey, so I spoke with Sabrina... I apologized, she accepted it and I said everything I wanted to but she hardly looked at me even but I think today in general she is sad so that might be why. I'm trying to look at the positive, she says she forgave me and now I need to work to be better.

blondehairyK...

Date posted: 5y

@Itz You are doing amazing just as you are. I'm really happy to hear that you guys are moving forward? all in good time

Itz

Date posted: 5y

@blondehairyKrishna Thank you so much!

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