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I've found that my partner accepts me with my OCD problems, she has her own anxiety relaxed problems and we help each other a lot. I don't tell her all the specific contents of my thoughts, and at first it was because I thought they were too disturbing to be shared and she'd hate me, but now it's more because the content of the thoughts isn't important: the struggle itself is. ultimately every person is going to be different, but I personally believe that letting someone into your life on a deeper level will involve disclosing that you struggle with the illness, and if they can't accept that, it's honestly their loss
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- 5y
Thank you. I agree completely.
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At first I did not share much with my partnerBut then I wanted to give him the chance to understand and feel more Supportive so I started sharing a lot. It helped but certain thoughts I am not planning on sharing because I dont know how he will interpret them. It sucks for me because I tell him most things and he is my rock. I have started to open up more with mmy family and ththat has been a huge area of support. I'm glad I shared with them. It normalizes it for me and helps me feel stronger about owning my OCD.
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My partner never asks me specific questions and I find it hard to share . Just be upfront and be direct - if you want specific support in some way other than listening - just say it. My partner is self absorbed (not in a narcissistic way but in an oblivious way) - and just isn’t happy he’s not seeing me more but I’m trying to get a handle on things as I just started erp and I’m also quite depressed.
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- 18w
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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- 15w
Hi all, I would really appreciate some advice on how you told a loved one about having ocd, specifically a significant other. I’ve been with mine for over 5 years, and I just had a recent diagnosis of OCD. To be honest, with the subtype I have, it’s really crippling to deal with, and I have a major worry of my partner not understanding the subtype. I would love to get some advice on how to best approach it and how to provide understanding that I’m still the same person. Thanks!
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- 11w
I have been in ERP therapy for my OCD for nearly a year now. Before my diagnosis and doing ERP, I really didn't drive a car for five years and rarely left the house. Now I drive to work, coffee and other outings. Most of the people close in my life don’t really know about my OCD. They do see me doing lots of things I haven't done in the past. I don't really know if I should explain about why this progress happened. I hope they don't think I was just being lazy up until then. They will talk about how someone is “so OCD” because they keep their room clean and really enjoy things neat. Anytime I hear this, I just think that if they hear about my diagnosis of OCD and what it entails they will think I’m crazy. I feel very conflicted about how to go about this, so advice is welcome.
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