ruminating_redhead
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lulu23lulu23
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At the end of the day I think any thoughts and fears all have the same meaning which is that they’re gthoughts and feelings. So I would say never let those thoughts or feelings keep you from doing anything you used to enjoy. When I was with my gf I had constant existential thoughts but I tried my best to live with them. It gets better.
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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I just feel like sex is something I should actually want to do to actually do it. How can I enjoy it when I have a million thoughts making me hate it while it’s happening? It sucks!
lulu23lulu23
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@ruminating_redhead It’s hard to do things if you’re not enjoying them. It’s tough but I would say look at what’s making you not enjoy it. Is it ocd or is it how you actually feel about it. 10/10 times for me it was ocd so I pushed through when I didn’t enjoy it because of that. The only way to get over ocd and all of it’s difficulties is to do the Th I be it doesn’t want us to most.
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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@lulu23 It’s hard to tell for me. I can’t tell if it’s ocd or not. Maybe it’s how I feel. But I can’t think of why I would feel this way now when I used to be attracted to my husband 24/7.
lulu23lulu23
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@ruminating_redhead Do you have a therapist?
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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@lulu23 I’m starting one next week
lulu23lulu23
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@ruminating_redhead Good for you, I hope they have ocd knowledge because that would really help you differentiate between the two feelings. I have a therapist and she’s nice and all but I basically handled this ocd thing on my own.
HeelloHeello
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Same here, just am disgusted by anything sex related
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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I don’t know why I am. Is your disgust contamination based?
HeelloHeello
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@ruminating_redhead Yup, but also because all the horrible thoughts I have
AnonymousAnonymous
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Oof same. I'm afraid of getting into a relationship (with a guy) because of HOCD but another part of my brain wants me to get into a relationship (with a guy)
CeejCeej
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Saaaaaaaamd
AnonymousAnonymous
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I’ve never been able to have good sex with my boyfriend, either due to lack of experience (we were like 16) or ocd. So I’m hoping to get over this.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Immorethanocd Good sex is relative, I mean I didn’t orgasm and now I’m terrified about what it all means. Excited for this to go away, I want a great sex life with him
AnonymousAnonymous
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I had sex with my boyfriend this morning. As I previously stated, it’s already very difficult for me to orgasm with a partner. I felt like I just wanted it to be over because I would look at him and his genitals and be like “why am I not more turned on?” And I kept getting frustrated. I’m just thankful that I exposed myself to it, and it’ll be easier next time
AnonymousAnonymous
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Terrified and avoiding my boyfriend. Tonight we are getting dinner together!
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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So last night i just tried to bite the bullet because my hubby wanted to ‘do it’ so we did, and at first I was enjoying it, but it feels like I’m trying to force pleasure. And then very quickly it turned into my in my thoughts and I was over analyzing the actual actions of sex and I started to get grossed out. Ugh. I don’t know what to do. I feel like if I keep avoiding it, it will enforce my fear, but it’s almost painful for me to do it without true desire for it and my mind agreeing. I’m at a loss honestly
lulu23lulu23
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I was honestly the same. Different theme but there were many days I found no joy from it. It was difficult but it passed for the most part because I didn’t let ocd keep me from it.
rbean2188rbean2188
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Your tug of war analogy is so spot on. I feel like that every minute of everyday!
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