Really suffering right now. Had to call out of work yesterday. I’m having extreme difficulties with making a decision. Why is it so hard to make decisions?!

Dear laurashep, life is about making decisions and that’s ok. Because that’s the way we build what we want for ourselves. Sometimes there’re bad decisions (for example, stealing something). But lately I’ve been thinking there’s no good or bad decisions. During many years I thought I had to choose something and that choice had to equal some destiny’s choice. As if there was a destiny and life was about finding out what that destiny was. In that context every decision is stressful, because what if that decision keeps you far away from your “destiny”. But now I think there’s no such a thing. It’s your life, not the destiny’s life. I must think about what I want today, what I deeply want today and make a decision accordingly. If I make a mistake, I can fix it later. We’re learning. We’re all learning. Just don’t harm you or harm others: I believe that’s the only rule.

I find it so hard to make decisions :(

@leandrito wow thank you so much! Funny, that’s exactly how I feel. Like I don’t know what decision is right for my destiny. I agonize so much over making the “right” choice, afraid that I’m going to mess up a path I’m “supposed” to be on. I am trying to embrace that there is no such thing, but it is so hard. It is so nice to know other people are experiencing the same thing. Thank you for your encouraging words. You’re right, we’re all learning!

My therapists taught me that finding it hard to make decisions is part of OCD!

Yes it really makes it so so hard!