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Think about using acceptance commitment therapy when the thoughts happen. Act often helps with the RP in ERP
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i’m too scared to try the acceptance technique. i keep thinking “what if i do accept it and then i am gay”
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I am trying, it helps me sometimes, but then the hocd came back hardwr
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harder*
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you just have to think that is it irrational. over and over. and then once you do it you realize that it’s NOT the end of the world whatsoever. i actually used to have the same exact thoughts about being gay, the thought of it was terrifying, petrifying to me. but once I was able to just say it to myself and accept it I soon realized that I wasn’t even gay, I was just too scared to even think about that possibly. and i’m still figuring it out tbh!! I might be bi? who knows? but it’s 2018, and there’s nothing wrong with that. trust me. find the people in your life that don’t care whether you are or not. and treat u no differently with or without it. you got one right here!:) Just let that weight off your shoulders, trust me, it’s so much nicer. Your OCD is just simply making it so much more complicated than it has to be, that is it’s job, after all ?
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Yes!! Even if it was other times, there isnt anything wrong kkkk but this hocd just kills me!! I am gonna try your tips!! thank you
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The common themes are worrying about harming others, harming yourself, worried about being gay, weird religious thoughts, scared you’re a pedophile....I’ve heard of people having disturbing thoughts about have sex with Jesus (which bothered them because they’re religious).... I had thoughts that omg what if I’m gay and I would be scared to see an attractive woman....one time I hid all the knives in my house...if you’re having these thoughts than tell yourself it’s my OCD. For me my OCD thoughts seem so real and they’re so magnified....when I was little one time I kept saying “my mom is a bitch” in my head and it bothered me so much I confessed to her....nowadays I just obsess about the past... I have no idea why my brain made the switch in themes. But I don’t know...these days I tell myself if I have a bad thought and it’s really bothering me and I feel like it’s the end of the world than it’s probably just my OCD. Unless I find out I’m dying, someone I love is dying, or it’s the end of the world for real then I know most of my troubles are just ocd. This doesn’t always work right away because I get easily lost in thought but eventually a light bulb goes off and I think yep it’s my OCD. I’ve had this illness most of my life so I speak from a lot of experience ?
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And I’ve said this many times with people who have ocd, if you are having disturbing thoughts are you find them really disturbing and it bothers you than that’s a good sign. Because psychopaths “enjoy” they’re disturbing thoughts...because they have no conscience.
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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