Okay so update for everyone, I u understand why I am having these thoughts and I'm convinced I'm hot a P*** but I still have the damn thoughts they keep coming in and whenever I'm near children I stress out, how is one supposed to ignore thoughts that are so dark and sickening and carry on with there daily lives, I've tried my best to cancell them out when I can but whenever iam horny or see or hear anything to do with children i will be triggered and there is nothing i can do, please give your advice it would be much appreciated, I used to love kids and playing with them seeing them smile, and now I cant go near them, how are you supposed to stay with them when your getting constant horrifying thoughts about them.

pureolife

Date posted: 5y

Stop “canceling them out.” That’s a compulsion and that’s what’s driving your obsession. Allowing the thoughts to come and go without attaching to or judging them is hard, but it’s the only way to take away power from the obsession. When you don’t react with compulsions, you show your brain that these thoughts are unimportant and not a threat and over time it trains your brain to stop delivering those thoughts to you so often, if at all. Every time you cancel out a thought, attach to it, analyze it, try to get rid of it, etc, you’re showing your brain it’s important and it’s reacting by feeding those thoughts to you more often. Break the cycle! At first, not performing compulsions will be hard and you may experience an increase in the frequency and/or intensity of the thoughts, but that’s just OCD trying to keep your obsession alive. Starve it of a reaction, and it withers away over time.

Will 7

Date posted: 5y

So when I get a thought, what do i do like what do i say in my head, cause it's going to make me cringe no matter what

pureolife

Date posted: 5y

@Will 7 When you get the thought, just acknowledge it and how it makes you feel, as well as how you’re going to react. “Wow, that thought was really unpleasant and it makes me want to cancel it out. But I’m not going to because that’s a compulsion. Instead I’m going to breath and refocus on what I was doing a minute ago.” Acknowledge the thought and the desired compulsion and then plan to do something else instead.

lulu23

Date posted: 5y

The goal is not to ignore or cancel thoughts. The goal is to not react to them. You truly have to accept that they are there and continue doing what you wish to do. Thoughts are never facts.

Will 7

Date posted: 5y

I understand, but damm that is hard on such a sickening subject like mine

fenty

Date posted: 5y

I have this same problem. I'd there a way we can message privately? Personally I have found that opening up wherever possible has profound effects , but yeah recently it's been getting difficult with the what ifs and shoulds

fenty

Date posted: 5y

I just want to be normal

ruminating_r...

Date posted: 5y

I don’t just get the thought. I get a little spike of anxiety that I can’t seem to control. And I also associate this really dirty nasty feeling that I have now taken over myself and made myself think I’m dirty or devious

pureolife

Date posted: 5y

Most people have anxiety associated with the thoughts. And you can’t control that. Trying to tends to make it worse. Rather than controlling the anxiety, simply let it be there without doing compulsions to try to ease it. Go about your life. Don’t allow feelings to dictate your behavior because feelings are not facts. When you worry that you’re dirty or devious, simply accept that that may or may not be true and move on. “Maybe I am secretly devious. Or maybe I’m not, and this is OCD. Or maybe there’s another answer out there completely. I can’t know and I don’t need to know.”

ruminating_r...

Date posted: 5y

@pureolife You stated that perfectly. It’s hard to shake a feeling, but I will start to try to accept the fact that I could be all those things. I’ve overcome other themes with that attitude. It’s harder with the moral themes

fenty

Date posted: 5y

It's difficult because on the one hand people say about the specific type of OCD, that we're definitely not p****. How can I maintain that and also tell myself maybe I am?

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