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- 5y ago
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Personally I bring it up when it comes up. Once it came up on the first date and I just rolled with it. I don’t get into details until I’m very comfortable with a person though
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That sounds like a good tactic
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The right person for you will accept you for who you are, inside and out. but acceptance doesn't equal understanding, at least not immediately. when I first began dating my girlfriend she told me that she has autism spectrum disorder, and I accepted her and chose to stay. I'm so glad I did, because I love her so much and she's a fantastic woman, but that doesn't mean there's been struggles in me understanding what she goes through and such. the same has been true the other way around, with me figuring out last summer that I have OCD. she accepted me nearly immediately, and has stayed with me through all my months of tough moments, even though she still doesn't fully understand and maybe never will, she tries. effort and communication are cornerstones for a healthy relationship, and the right person will accept you for you. tl;dr: don't let OCD keep you from doing what you wanna do. it will work out for you eventually, I guarantee it!
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- 5y ago
You’re absolutely right. There are good moments I get wheee I’m like yeah I’m ready for love! Then I get mad moments and I feel that I would be a burden to someone because of it. Probably the OCD talking then too
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- 5y ago
Personally I'd mention it on the first date. Same thing as Erin, but if my OCD was bad I think I would treat it before dating. I might just say that I get worries which don't make sense and most of the time I just let them be there but occasionally I get a new worry and get sucked in before I notice that I'm doing OCD and I treat it. I kinda wish I could date someone else with OCD which they manage well. They'd really get it.
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- 23w ago
I am wanting to go to therapy to hopefully lower my OCD symptoms but I am terrified to tell anyone else, like a therapist, about my intrusive thoughts. Has anyone else had this experience and if so how did you get over it?
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Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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- 5w ago
So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.
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