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I feel like anyone who doesn’t have OCD will never fully understand it. I guess you can try to express what you actually feel better to her or maybe show her an article or video about it. My mom doesn’t understand either and it pisses me off even though I’ve tried. I have moral ocd and that’s it, but she likes to joke about it and attribute random shit to my ocd. I told her I liked my personal space just in an innocent convo and she was like “oh yeah that’s your ocd isn’t it” no mom. I have moral ocd not space issues. I just don’t like people.
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Ugh i know.. its like they joke but dont understand how it hurts
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it took me years for my parents to come foreward and admit that in the beginning, they really didnt understand the severity of ocd, or even the stress that ocd was capable of. Full on years of enduring judgements that ignored the obvious signs of what I was going through, as they made excuses and blamed everything in my life (video games, excercise, “not drinking enough water” lol) except the ocd. Today they openly admit and apologize for being like this. With education and time, your mom will surely feel similarily. Its rightfully difficult for people to understand but as long as you know yourself, try to remember that someday parents will too.
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Thank you this really helped me
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@g432 ❤️
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When I tell my mom now that as a child I LEGITIMATELY thought I was dying of cancer/ or another terminal illness for most of my childhood and I was too terrified to tell her that I was dying and she laughs and is like that’s so ridiculous and you were crazy! And I’m just like ?? but also imagine being 9 and thinking truly to your core that you were actively dying from cancer and couldn’t tell anyone..
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That sounds horrible. I’ve had those moments too when I was convinced I had breast cancer and I was utterly terrified and my mom was like “you’re being over dramatic”. It’s scary.
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@imokay the fear instilled within someone with ocd is so indescribable to others. Truly vivid and frightening. People always assume we’re overreacting and guess what? We are!! Thats the nature of the disease but if they felt the tension we feel daily they’d be overreacting too haha
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@Veronica64 Oh my gosh YES EXACTLY
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Wow thats just terribly frustrating... it makes me so frustrated that ppl w ocd like me really go through this and people see our fearfears as one dimensional little things we'll get over eventually. Like they dont understand thats the ONLY thing occupied in our minds and it effects everything. WWe really do suffer so bad without them knowing. Im relieved i have this NOCD community with ppl like u who really understand me. I mean its actually hard for ppl w out ocd to understand it and i get that, but it makes all the difference if they are being supportive eveeven if they dont fully comprehend and they try to understand and solupport you through it. But thank you for relating? how do u feel
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This sounds really similar to my mom. It feels so hard when people who don’t have ocd don’t “get” it or how bad it is. I still struggle with this a lot. I hope you have people in your life that can be supportive and understanding too.
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Wow thank u? this was so sweet and helpful to me.
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I am married and neither,my husband or children understand what it feels like to have OCD. I have had it for some time now. Sometimes ig gets better while other times it acts up and feels just awful!! During these especially awful times I worry more, voice what I am worried about, and just feels depressed. I got even more depressed whwn my family members insult me because of my ocd. I know I should not voice my worries etc ask I am thinking that is a,compulsion but sometimes I do. I regret it afterward,cuz nothing food really happens as a result. More often I am judged, called names and then I really get depressed!!!! It sometimes tanes me days to feel better acter one of those wpisodes! I guess besides not viucing my worries what can I do in a family that does so ma y things that upset me....and it would wvwn if I did nit have ocd!!! I meant WE all have to live together and trust me....there are things they so that for sure woyld have bothered me way before I had o d! ,They would bother the father and son on the TV show Sanford and Son!!! How so I just,live in same house,all the,whike pretending those things,don't bother me? I meant I am the mom. Don't I get some say so without being called names etc?
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Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.
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I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
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