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I feel like anyone who doesn’t have OCD will never fully understand it. I guess you can try to express what you actually feel better to her or maybe show her an article or video about it. My mom doesn’t understand either and it pisses me off even though I’ve tried. I have moral ocd and that’s it, but she likes to joke about it and attribute random shit to my ocd. I told her I liked my personal space just in an innocent convo and she was like “oh yeah that’s your ocd isn’t it” no mom. I have moral ocd not space issues. I just don’t like people.
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Ugh i know.. its like they joke but dont understand how it hurts
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it took me years for my parents to come foreward and admit that in the beginning, they really didnt understand the severity of ocd, or even the stress that ocd was capable of. Full on years of enduring judgements that ignored the obvious signs of what I was going through, as they made excuses and blamed everything in my life (video games, excercise, “not drinking enough water” lol) except the ocd. Today they openly admit and apologize for being like this. With education and time, your mom will surely feel similarily. Its rightfully difficult for people to understand but as long as you know yourself, try to remember that someday parents will too.
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Thank you this really helped me
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@g432 ❤️
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When I tell my mom now that as a child I LEGITIMATELY thought I was dying of cancer/ or another terminal illness for most of my childhood and I was too terrified to tell her that I was dying and she laughs and is like that’s so ridiculous and you were crazy! And I’m just like ?? but also imagine being 9 and thinking truly to your core that you were actively dying from cancer and couldn’t tell anyone..
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That sounds horrible. I’ve had those moments too when I was convinced I had breast cancer and I was utterly terrified and my mom was like “you’re being over dramatic”. It’s scary.
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@imokay the fear instilled within someone with ocd is so indescribable to others. Truly vivid and frightening. People always assume we’re overreacting and guess what? We are!! Thats the nature of the disease but if they felt the tension we feel daily they’d be overreacting too haha
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@Veronica64 Oh my gosh YES EXACTLY
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Wow thats just terribly frustrating... it makes me so frustrated that ppl w ocd like me really go through this and people see our fearfears as one dimensional little things we'll get over eventually. Like they dont understand thats the ONLY thing occupied in our minds and it effects everything. WWe really do suffer so bad without them knowing. Im relieved i have this NOCD community with ppl like u who really understand me. I mean its actually hard for ppl w out ocd to understand it and i get that, but it makes all the difference if they are being supportive eveeven if they dont fully comprehend and they try to understand and solupport you through it. But thank you for relating? how do u feel
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This sounds really similar to my mom. It feels so hard when people who don’t have ocd don’t “get” it or how bad it is. I still struggle with this a lot. I hope you have people in your life that can be supportive and understanding too.
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Wow thank u? this was so sweet and helpful to me.
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Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired
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my mom has been on this adhd kick where she thinks everyone has adhd instead of what they actually have because apparently it can present itself as anxiety. well i told her i was taking prozac because that’s something she needs to know since i still live at home. and she’s fine with it because it’s my choice. however, she comes into my room because she sent me a video about adhd. in the video, at the end, it says “girls with adhd may develop perfectionist or obsessive compulsive tendencies.” THEN, she has the audacity to tell me my compulsions didn’t start to show until after high school when that isn’t true at all. i just never talked about it, but of course she doesn’t believe me. i just feel so invalidated because after all of the hell i’ve been through, to be told i don’t have what i most certainly am positive i do have is atrocious. i would lose my mind if i was told i didn’t have ocd because of the intrusive thoughts i get that make me feel like a terrible person. i feel like being told that sets me back so far and makes me want to thought spiral a bit. i’m so upset.
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I have contamination ocd, and one of my compulsions is avoiding eating non-cooked food prepared by other people. I had a session with my family to plan accommodation reduction two months ago, and this compulsion was on there but we decided to focus on other accommodations first. Tonight my mom made fresh food (totally fine), but acted very offended and angry when I couldn’t eat it. I get where she’s coming from, she worked hard on the meal and it sucks that I couldn’t make myself eat it. But it also sucks that she knows this is a compulsion and can’t be understanding. Maybe I need to explain this compulsion to her better? In the family session we talked about the compulsion but not about the specific underlying obsessive thought (today my mom specifically said that I had to explain why I wasn’t eating and I didn’t). I’m really sad that OCD is affecting my relationship with her in this way.
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