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- g432
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I feel like anyone who doesn’t have OCD will never fully understand it. I guess you can try to express what you actually feel better to her or maybe show her an article or video about it. My mom doesn’t understand either and it pisses me off even though I’ve tried. I have moral ocd and that’s it, but she likes to joke about it and attribute random shit to my ocd. I told her I liked my personal space just in an innocent convo and she was like “oh yeah that’s your ocd isn’t it” no mom. I have moral ocd not space issues. I just don’t like people.
Ugh i know.. its like they joke but dont understand how it hurts
it took me years for my parents to come foreward and admit that in the beginning, they really didnt understand the severity of ocd, or even the stress that ocd was capable of. Full on years of enduring judgements that ignored the obvious signs of what I was going through, as they made excuses and blamed everything in my life (video games, excercise, “not drinking enough water” lol) except the ocd. Today they openly admit and apologize for being like this. With education and time, your mom will surely feel similarily. Its rightfully difficult for people to understand but as long as you know yourself, try to remember that someday parents will too.
Thank you this really helped me
@g432 ❤️
When I tell my mom now that as a child I LEGITIMATELY thought I was dying of cancer/ or another terminal illness for most of my childhood and I was too terrified to tell her that I was dying and she laughs and is like that’s so ridiculous and you were crazy! And I’m just like ?? but also imagine being 9 and thinking truly to your core that you were actively dying from cancer and couldn’t tell anyone..
That sounds horrible. I’ve had those moments too when I was convinced I had breast cancer and I was utterly terrified and my mom was like “you’re being over dramatic”. It’s scary.
@imokay the fear instilled within someone with ocd is so indescribable to others. Truly vivid and frightening. People always assume we’re overreacting and guess what? We are!! Thats the nature of the disease but if they felt the tension we feel daily they’d be overreacting too haha
@Veronica64 Oh my gosh YES EXACTLY
Wow thats just terribly frustrating... it makes me so frustrated that ppl w ocd like me really go through this and people see our fearfears as one dimensional little things we'll get over eventually. Like they dont understand thats the ONLY thing occupied in our minds and it effects everything. WWe really do suffer so bad without them knowing. Im relieved i have this NOCD community with ppl like u who really understand me. I mean its actually hard for ppl w out ocd to understand it and i get that, but it makes all the difference if they are being supportive eveeven if they dont fully comprehend and they try to understand and solupport you through it. But thank you for relating? how do u feel
This sounds really similar to my mom. It feels so hard when people who don’t have ocd don’t “get” it or how bad it is. I still struggle with this a lot. I hope you have people in your life that can be supportive and understanding too.
Wow thank u? this was so sweet and helpful to me.
I dont think my mom understands OCD. She told me she might have a little bit because she keeps checking and checking stuff. How do i even explain its not just that. It’s the endless thoughts and fear and doubt and guilt
I have OCD and a while back I sent my mother an article explaining what OCD was like for people with OCD and she still doesn’t get it. Every time I have an off day she says I’m letting my OCD win or she will say that I should schedule my worrying for later. Sometimes she will even say that I like having OCD because I like feeling like a victim. I have told her time and time again that OCD doesn’t work like that but she keeps trying to relate it back to her as in she tries to say that she was anxious once too but then she just decided not to be anxious anymore and she got better. She is also the reason why my OCD got so bad before I decided to get help since she told me just to not be anxious anymore. It’s really hard because whenever I have off days she seems to make them worse.
I have been really struggling with contamination OCD, I'm so afraid of touching things, I fear getting ill or my baby, and the very worst is the insane amount I wash my hands, my psychologist told me I should take note 📝 of every time I wash my hands during the day and also to write what are the thoughts that drives me to wash my hands, past week there was a day I washed them 30 times in just one hour 😓😱😨😰😭 I feel so miserable about it, my mother keeps telling me things like: "OMG that's insane! It's wrong, stop it! Like if it was so easy just to stop. My husband just says: oh just stop washing them so much it's not necessary 😑😒. I feel like no one understands me, I feel like I'm the weirdest person alive like no one else has ever washed their hands so much as me. I'm fighting everyday to wake up early and break the vicious circle of being so down and lazy.
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