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I feel like anyone who doesn’t have OCD will never fully understand it. I guess you can try to express what you actually feel better to her or maybe show her an article or video about it. My mom doesn’t understand either and it pisses me off even though I’ve tried. I have moral ocd and that’s it, but she likes to joke about it and attribute random shit to my ocd. I told her I liked my personal space just in an innocent convo and she was like “oh yeah that’s your ocd isn’t it” no mom. I have moral ocd not space issues. I just don’t like people.
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Ugh i know.. its like they joke but dont understand how it hurts
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it took me years for my parents to come foreward and admit that in the beginning, they really didnt understand the severity of ocd, or even the stress that ocd was capable of. Full on years of enduring judgements that ignored the obvious signs of what I was going through, as they made excuses and blamed everything in my life (video games, excercise, “not drinking enough water” lol) except the ocd. Today they openly admit and apologize for being like this. With education and time, your mom will surely feel similarily. Its rightfully difficult for people to understand but as long as you know yourself, try to remember that someday parents will too.
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Thank you this really helped me
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@g432 ❤️
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When I tell my mom now that as a child I LEGITIMATELY thought I was dying of cancer/ or another terminal illness for most of my childhood and I was too terrified to tell her that I was dying and she laughs and is like that’s so ridiculous and you were crazy! And I’m just like ?? but also imagine being 9 and thinking truly to your core that you were actively dying from cancer and couldn’t tell anyone..
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That sounds horrible. I’ve had those moments too when I was convinced I had breast cancer and I was utterly terrified and my mom was like “you’re being over dramatic”. It’s scary.
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@imokay the fear instilled within someone with ocd is so indescribable to others. Truly vivid and frightening. People always assume we’re overreacting and guess what? We are!! Thats the nature of the disease but if they felt the tension we feel daily they’d be overreacting too haha
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@Veronica64 Oh my gosh YES EXACTLY
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Wow thats just terribly frustrating... it makes me so frustrated that ppl w ocd like me really go through this and people see our fearfears as one dimensional little things we'll get over eventually. Like they dont understand thats the ONLY thing occupied in our minds and it effects everything. WWe really do suffer so bad without them knowing. Im relieved i have this NOCD community with ppl like u who really understand me. I mean its actually hard for ppl w out ocd to understand it and i get that, but it makes all the difference if they are being supportive eveeven if they dont fully comprehend and they try to understand and solupport you through it. But thank you for relating? how do u feel
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This sounds really similar to my mom. It feels so hard when people who don’t have ocd don’t “get” it or how bad it is. I still struggle with this a lot. I hope you have people in your life that can be supportive and understanding too.
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Wow thank u? this was so sweet and helpful to me.
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My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired
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I have contamination ocd, and one of my compulsions is avoiding eating non-cooked food prepared by other people. I had a session with my family to plan accommodation reduction two months ago, and this compulsion was on there but we decided to focus on other accommodations first. Tonight my mom made fresh food (totally fine), but acted very offended and angry when I couldn’t eat it. I get where she’s coming from, she worked hard on the meal and it sucks that I couldn’t make myself eat it. But it also sucks that she knows this is a compulsion and can’t be understanding. Maybe I need to explain this compulsion to her better? In the family session we talked about the compulsion but not about the specific underlying obsessive thought (today my mom specifically said that I had to explain why I wasn’t eating and I didn’t). I’m really sad that OCD is affecting my relationship with her in this way.
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