Bi ocd Anyone here who fears they might be bi? Most people here are scared that they are gay. Anyone here, who still like opposite sex, but obsessed about same sex attraction? This is weird, but seeing so many people losing opp sex attraction makes me feel I am the odd one out. Like I should have lost opp sex attraction if I were straight and had ocd. Maybe I am bi and have ocd bcz I can't accept my sexuality. I don't need any reassurances but if anyone is here with bi ocd nd willing to talk

Great, so all my life I’ve always thought about women sexually and romantically and never men at all, but 8 months ago when I got HOCD I freaked out of the thought cause it was the first time I got it. I’m 16 so it makes me think I haven’t gone through puberty and haven’t found “my ture self” yet. This scares me a lot like a lot. What’s the difference with HOCD and bi denial and what age would someone bi know there not only attracted to one sex??

@Slat208 Well, for me, as soon as I figured out that I didn't have to choose between being gay and straight, was so relieved. I realized then that I was probably bi. I worry about the difference between being bi and pan or being biromantic or bisexual. HOCD would involve a lot of obsessing about whether or not you're bi or gay even though you're straight. Bi denial would be getting so anxious about the possibility of being bi that you push away thoughts of it even though you are bi. It can be really hard to figure out who you're attracted to and who you're not. My advice would be to check out who you want to check out (respectfully), and feel it out. And maybe don't place too much of your identity on your sexuality until you figure it out

@Teriyaki You sure that’s what bi denial is?? Cause Whats the difference then with HOCD??

@hateocd All you guys I have had similar experience. Gay and bi thoughts not not equal gay or bi! Of course there is uncertainty and doubt. My HOCD started at 16 too(now19) and before that i had religious OCD for 2 years. OCD was known as the doubting disease and makes you question the most fundamental things of your character. Don't buy into it, don't seek reassurance, don't check or ruminate, try to proove anything or neautralise/replace the thoughts. If you are not already in therapy, please start because recovery is possible!

@hateocd Well, there's no need to be scared that you're bi, though, is there? It's not really scary, I think. Knowing that I'm bi has been nothing but comforting and good for me. Maybe I'm misunderstanding; I'm sorry. Is it a crisis of identity, or are you actually afraid of being bisexual?

@Teriyaki This is OCD. It can latch onto any thought or content. It doesn't matter about the content. You respond with anxiety to a thought so your brain thinks that it has to keep giving you more of the same or similar thoughts to protect you. This is a serious psychiatric illness, not an identity crisis!

@hateocd Are you in therapy? Have you been officially diagnosed? Look, OCD will try anything to convince you that your thoughts are true and real because it sees them as dangerous because you have reacted at some point with fear. I don't want to give you reassurance because it is counterproductive for recovery. Are you in therapy?

@Praise I know that OCD is a serious illness. But serious psychiatric problems can also be identity crises. And I was asking if @hateocd was more afraid of not knowing who they are, or afraid of actually being bi

@Teriyaki I think they are similar. OCD makes you doubt fundamental aspects of your character. That's why it can be so scary if you are straight, and suddenly these thoughts are telling you you are bi or gay because that is not truly who you are or what you want. It will try to tell you that's what you want but they are just intrusive thoughts. It isn't anything personal against being bi, it is just that for someone who isn't, that is scary because it is not who they are. Does that make sense?

@Praise Yeah, that makes sense. Thanks

@hateocd That is completely normal. Are you in therapy?