Does anyone else do this? Judge people? I find myself doing it a lot and feel like a truly horrible person because of it. It also makes me a hypocrite as well because if someone were to judge me I wouldn't like it. I've been trying to better myself as a person but find it hard at times. I just dont feel like it is fair of me to assume or make judgements of people when I sometimes don't even know them.

We're humans and we're born with some things that pulls us down, we slowly work on them and get better as we want. Sometimes some of those things still get left behind. We can still work on them. Mindfulness meditation has helped me to become non-judgmental, whether for others, situations or myself, basically for the present.

I try to move out of judging and into noticing. If you feel guilty anytime you have a "bad thought" about someone then you're going to ruin your ability to make good decisions. My sister has had this problem. She had a boy over a few years ago who she was thinking of dating. He kept talking over her and not listening to what other people said in conversation, just waiting for his turn to talk. I pointed it out afterwards to my sister and she said I was being judgmental and that she hadn't noticed it. I knew that she has a history of somehow staying unaware of others' flaws and basically thinking that people are all wonderful until she finally realised they're not, but it takes something big enough for her to not be able to ignore. I explained that noticing is not judgmental, it's sensible. I don't draw conclusions from it as yeah it could be he's self absorbed but could alternatively mean he was just very anxious. The good thing about noticing is that the next time he does something which indicates one of those options, I can add that to what I already experienced of him and get a clearer picture. If I see later him being rude or dismissive towards people, it might give me an opinion about what I saw in the first place. If you can't spot someone who doesn't treat others well, you can't put in place appropriate boundaries to keep yourself safe. It doesn't make you a bad person to notice things in order to set boundaries. In fact it's absolutely essential. As Believe says, mindfulness allows you to notice without jumping to conclusions, and to protect yourself appropriately, that's what you need.