i need help. i'm not sure if this is ocd. first of all i love my partner with all my heart, my love for her is too much. i suffer of pocd and hocd, and i want to believe that this is rocd. deep down i realize it's the same, same anxiety, same form of thoughts, etc... but from what i read and always knew for rocd the intrusive thoughts are "i love my partner?" "my partner is good for me?" stuff like that. but in my case is "she's a wh*re" "you're such a liar" it makes me feel a sh*t, i don't have any evidence for that thoughts, and leaves me, apart, a fear of being or becoming a misoginian, because, sometimes, i have the same intrusive thoughts with other females. but first and foremost with my partner, i don't want to be this. i know it's a sort of reassurance but i just want to know if this is ocd cause it isn't what i knew for rocd and that's what's killing me

the thoughts are intrusive as hell, lately i have those all day, it don't make any sense, and the thoughts itself don't make sense at all, i feel very bad when the thoughts of that stuff pops up... with all of that i interprete it's ocd, but it scares me that don't seems to be the classical rocd

@monte If you were to respond as if it's ocd, what would you do next?

@NOCD Advocate - Katie i ain't sure if i interpreted correctly, i'm from argentina, but if u refer to what i would do if this is ocd... i think the same that i try to do with the other themes, that even today it's a pain for me with all themes. let the thoughts be and accept the uncertainty. in this case that would be "maybe she's lying me" "maybe she's a slut" (¿?¿??¿?) how it suppose that i would accept that? yeah in this moment i understand it's ocd because in the end the fear is that i have to leave her and that i hate her. two things that i would rather die before come true. i suppose it's just not the classical rocd stuff

@monte You can pair acceptance with boosting your confidence that you could cope. You choose your actions. "Maybe she's lying" can fit right along side "I can make relationship decisions that fit with my values"

@NOCD Advocate - Katie ok i think i understand, thank u