irish_and_ocd
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takingmylifebacktakingmylife...
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Yea i do and I try not getting too caught up in my head and just tell my intrusive thoughts “well I guess so”. It is hard because I try to fix it when I am with him so I try doing erp when I am with him or I try reading some posts on here to see how other people are dealing with it (it may be a type of compulsion I am going to stop) but I definitely get very distracted in my phone and feel guilty for having thoughts like this. Just know you are not alone
irish_and_ocdirish_and_ocd
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Thanks so much for sharing. Do you mind me asking if you have told him about the content of your thoughts or your OCD? Is he supportive of you? I'm just so worried about telling a guy about certain thoughts I have/had. Worried about not having legitimate feelings for a guy with all the distracting thoughts in my head.
takingmylifebacktakingmylife...
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@Praise I have just told him I have mainly a type of ocd that’s called ROCD and he understands it. I have read that it’s better to not tell them the exact thoughts because it can be too much for them to handle as for anyone that doesn’t have thoughts like we do ya know. So I have kept that to myself. He has been so so supportive of it and he knows that sometimes I am wrapped up in my head. And as for ROCD it will make you feel guilty for having these thoughts and you just have to understand that doubt is normal in a relationship we of course keep the thought spiraling and trying to figure out why we are having these doubts because there must be something wrong when in reality it’s so normal. You also have to understand that a relationship isn’t just based on feelings because feelings just come and go... it’s not like in the movies where everyone is happy and in love all of the time
irish_and_ocdirish_and_ocd
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@sofiaguerrrero Thanks so much for your help. I appreciate it so much!
ItsmeItsme
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I do! I feel like HOCD affects a lot my relationship because the thoughts bother me all the time (for example, even during sex). There were times in which I was so angry because of my thoughts that I would have bad temper and we ended fighting. Other times, I would feel so sad that I almost couldn't handle my tears in front of him (I had to go to the toilet many times to cry). So, in one of those days, we went out for dinner and I was so overwhelmed that I had to tell him (2 years ago). At first, it was very confusing for him because he thought I was actually bissexual, but later he understood the dimension of the problem and was VERY supportive and never judged me because of it. I still had moments in which I would cry so much in front of him because I was tired of living like this. Sometimes he makes jokes about me being a lesbian but in an inoffensive way ???♀️ I still find it very hard to talk about it with him though. Last week I had a dream in which he was telling me I was becoming a lesbian and I woke up horrified. My advise is that you tell your partner because you will feel much more relief. Also, talk when you feel ready for it and don't talk if you are feeling overwhelmed, because that happened to me when telling my bf and my family, and it makes the situation even more scary for them - in my case I couldn't stop crying. Also, there is cientifical studies around this theme that can support it and many people struggle with the same. Good luck ??
irish_and_ocdirish_and_ocd
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- 5y
Thank you so much. You have an amazing story. Thanks so much for your help and advice, I appreciate it so much!
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