Sunflower
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AnonymousAnonymous
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You’ve posted about this and your sister a few times tonight. Are you sure you’re not just fixated on the thought. When I was younger I had weird thoughts about family members and I would shake them off and feel gross but the focusing on it would just make it worse. I had to try to think about other things to distract myself. I’ve learned the more you try not to focus on something the worse it can sometimes get. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have actual incenstual feelings towards a family member.
SunflowerSunflower
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But I have soo many groinals and I feel like I like them, and I don't know
AnonymousAnonymous
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@cami0102 Can I ask how old you are? And how old your sibling is? The “groinal” feeling might not be attached to your sibling, maybe it is attached to a certain aspect or what he/she is doing? I think the more you focus on it and how much it bothers you the more it will happen.
SunflowerSunflower
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@Meg02 I'm 19 and she is 26
DMD DMD
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Cami - I just tell myself that I would never act on it and let the thought pass. You’ll never really be able to figure out why you’re having those reactions. I also say I embrace all reactions because you can’t change what comes up. I don’t know if this will help you or not but it has helped me to let thoughts like that pass.
SunflowerSunflower
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It's that last night I was really close her and I really feel like I wanna kiss her and I feel like I like that because it was not fear, not gross, not ashamed, that comes after and now I can't let it go
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 Why can't you let it go?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw Because I feel like I really want to kiss her and I really like and it was not fear, not gross nothing, I can tell that I feel good feeling that, so all of this is true
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 Yes you already explained that. But you said you can't let it go. Why not?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw Because u feel like this is true, all of this that I like my sister
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 Yes I know. Why can't you let it go?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw I don't know, because I need to know that this is not true I need to find something that tell me that that didn't happend
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 Why do you need to know that? What would stop you from living your life without an answer to that?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw Because I can't living my life knowing that I'm this
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 Why not?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw Because this is horrible
FathomableFathomable
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@cami0102 @cami0102 I think you may be getting not-knowing mixed up with not-knowing-and-having-OCD-about-it. Yes what you're going through is horrible. I'm not suggesting that you continue to live with OCD. It's not horrible because of the content of the worry. It's not horrible because it's about your sister. It's horrible because you can't stop thinking about it. The problem isn't the problem. If I didn't know whether or not I was attracted to my sister, I could live without an answer. I'd be just fine thanks, I've got a whole life to live which doesn't revolve around that question. Your OCD is what is making you feel horrible. You can live your life without an answer to the question. It's not an important question. You just need to treat your OCD which is making you suffer.
BelieveInYourselfBelieveInYou...
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@Louw Well said. ?
SunflowerSunflower
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@Louw OK, I'm going to try to start living and stop this, thank you so much for your help ❤️
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