I don’t know what to do about my living situation during covid19 I planned on officially moving in with my partner but haven’t given up my flat (which I’m secretly relieved about) Since living with him though and being in lockdown with him he’s been quite verbally abusive (I think? I’m not sure if it’s fair to call it that?)when he’s drunk and now I’m not sure what to do If I say I’m not ready to give up my flat after all he will be really upset and tell me it’s over completely

He’s said some extreme things while drunk the other night now I’m a bit like ? so it’s not unreasonable for me to change my mind over just that one time surely?

@Bob999 Thankyou ✌? Im having a hard time making decisions because no one in my life knows what he said the other night and it’s left a bad taste in my mouth and now I feel a bit like uneasy about letting my flat go

@Bob999 It’s weird cuz whenever we have a disagreement or something he says “maybe you should go back to your flat for space” which triggers my fear of abandonment. I had that flat after I was unexpectedly dumped by my ex of ten years so he knows it scares me. When I say it makes me worry when he tells me to go he says “it was just a suggestion though” but he’s said it loads? I keep saying, when I give up my Flat I WONT have anywhere to go when you want to suggest those things? When I suggested space the other day he freaked and told me to take ALL my stuff and never come back then. Then he said “how come you freak out when I say it but then you suggest it and it’s fine?” I said well you keep saying it a lot? There’s a difference. I actually feel like I need to have space as a RESULT and what he says

@Bob999 I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or not but I have wondered secretly. He lost his father last year. Now his mother has cancer. I think he’s depressed, he’s low as fuck and not who I met last year..he’s worried for his business due to covid19 And we are quarantined together so I don’t know if I’m being fair? He called me a cunt and a waste of space a pig etc etc the other night and repeatedly told me to fuck off in between every word I said during the arguement and said when I left for good in the morning “he’d tell me to fuck off again” Cried and said he hates himself the next day because he didn’t mean any of it and I’m too nice to have to hear that. I told him to promise not to ever again because I won’t eve. Argue next Time I’ll just leave. He claimed he couldn’t promise that because “what if he did slip up? He didn’t plan it this time so he doesn’t wanna do that but it’s impossible to promise something like that”