- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
What you’re looking for right now is reassurance, and it will just make your anxiety worse if you feed into it. I know how hard it is to break the reassurance addiction, I’m struggling with it right now myself
Yeah but I found him attractive I feel like I'm breaking inside
@Lina lost I totally understand, but the fear and anxiety will pass without reassurance and you will be ok, it’ll just take a little longer. If you fight the thought of it, the thought will get stronger and just be harder to fight off next time, so don’t fight the thought!
Hello Don’t follow the thought - my Husband is 2 years younger than me !!! I am Not reassuring you I am just letting you know the facts. Ocd will lie and bully you. The one thing that is reassurance is that OCD is a Nasty lying bully. How nice for you to have seen this boy on Instagram, Don’t Let the OCD monster lie to you!! I should imagine if you are anything like my daughter who too is Bullied By the monster, you too are a caring sensitive loving person that ocd is bullying !!! -‘just say so what and re focus, I know easier said than done but the bully will get tired of you let the though in - say so what and refocus and do something you enjoy.
Also not trying to give reassurance but the fact is you feeling attracted to someone 5 months younger than you is not what is classified as pedophilia. You are both in the same age range. If you were 30, per se, and this person was 15, then that falls into that category, but only 5 months is not a pedophile, especially if you are in the same age range. It is your OCD making you anxious most likely, you will be okay
CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE ANSWER When I was younger (like 17/18) I met a girl who went to the same school as me and lived in the same town. She was younger than me. (like 14). I was so stupid to talk to her and become friends with her. I thought she was cute and all. She also liked me (which was very wrong) and right now (a couple years later) I'm ruminating on it. I have the fear of becoming a pedophile and I'm so scared this means that I become one. I used to chat with her, and one time when I drank too much, I told her that she was pretty and stuff. I've so much guilt around it and I feel so freaking bad. Is it normal if I liked a girl around her age that time? I'm so scared because of this, I'll have to go to jail??! I NEVER intended on more than that, she was just cute and nothing more.
Is this sexual abuse ? I was on YouTube and I saw a 14 year old on the thumbnail of the video . I was like “oh he’s cute “ . I had watched the video before and they said he’s 14 and I had a thought , “wait isn’t he 14 “ while also just looking at him and finding him cute. Then after that I was like wait is he actually 14, watched the video and it turns out he actually was . So then I closed it and panicked. So now I feel like a gross pedo sexual abuser even if I didn’t find him cute after looking at him properly . I’m 17 idk if it’s relevant . I went on stopitnow.org and they said it’s sexual abuse to find someone 3 years younger attractive ? Can someone please help I’m freaking the fuck out .
I was watching this random tiktok on my fyp and this guy was comparing his art vs how how he looks or whatever. He is 15 and when he showed how he looked in real life I had a thought that was like 'damn that's how he looks??' and immediately after I thought 'he's 15 why would you think that' and im so anxious that's proof that im attracted to minors. I am 22 and I have never been attracted to a kid, nor have i ever considered dating or persuing a kid. Ive had POCD intrusive thoughts before but still, the pictures had his face covered and they looked like those aesthetic pinterest pictures people post, and i wasnt expecting that. I feel like vomiting but that thought felt so natural and im worried i meant it. Why would I have a thought like that?? I know we're 'not our thoughts' or whatever but that didn't feel like an intrusive thought and now I'm worried that was proof im attracted to a minor and that one of my worst fears is true. I'm also worried if I pass It off as an intrusive thought im in denial or making an excuse. Please help.
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