Hello, I have posted before regarding my 13 year old daughter and wondered if anyone else had the same triggers, hers is mental contamination. She doesn’t like bogies, snot , anyone touching their nose, Nose breathing - can’t stand near her pass her things, have to look away when she comes I. Same room so don’t nose breathe near her, She has done a week of Skype sort of intense therapy/ she has done some ERP - went into her sisters Room, Opened cupboard doors, touched things, Went into her room without washing her feet, Touched her remote Control but won’t try anything more and to even get her to repeat these things over again she says I am nagging and all I want to do is talk about ocd, she can be very Bulshy and repeats what I say is a sarcastic way - I’m finding it hard at the Moment to figure out what is her being scared of doing things, or is she is just being a teenager and a bit lazy, and when she speaks to Me Like rubbish - I try not to retaliate as she gets stress and panicky and then it goes on and on but she doesn’t even clear up the mess around the only sofa she will sit on and no one else is allowed over ther or in that area incase we nose breath or something falls out of our Nose. She Knows what she needs to do but when I suggest anything she says oh you were proud of me yesterday when I did. That now you aren’t and you just want more All the time / I don’t care about me I just want her not to lose anymore of her life to this horrid bully- it is like we are the contaminated horrible ones and not the ocd! Any help would be greatly received thankyou

Hi! I am 13 and one of my themes is mental contamination. I used to go to the hospital weekly believing I had appendicitis. Blood tests were a regular thing. ERP has helped tremendously. It sounds like your daughter is quite scared. I don't know her so I could be WAY off, but it seems to be that after she did ERP once she realised how hard it was. Unfortunately it is one of the only ways for your OCD to improve. I once had to go to school with a pounding headache and blotchy vision as part of ERP, because it was just a migraine and I panicked about it being other things and researched everything on the planet. I still get these thoughts and Coronavirus hasn't helped, and I still sanitised my hands up to my elbows, but it's a lot more manageable than it was before, and all of that is thanks to ERP. One of the things that I can do now is gardening. It is so relaxing and I'm so glad it isn't such a problem to me any more. Your life is so much more free when you don't have so mmany compulsions knocking at your door. Now that that theme isn't so bad, I have more time to focus on the others. I hope this helped in some way! I've been living with OCD since i was around 6 or 7, so I've come to learn a lot about how horrible it is, which has fuelled my determination with ERP

Thank you much. You are a very mature young lady and should be so proud of what you have achieved. I understand that the. Fears feel like it’s Life or death so understand how scared she is. Your mum and dad must be so proud and your message to me will inspire many other teenagers living with this awful Bully. Ocd is the illness and The doubt is the symptom, well done for facing your fears and confronting the bully. It’s true the things you fear like the mental contamination and the bogies and snot ( my daughters triggers) won’t hurt you but OCD will. Wishing you an amazing life, I know from My daughters suffering what you have been through. You are an inspiration!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you don’t Mind if I Message again at Some point to ask your advice. Take care Best wishes from a mum who just wants to help her daughter x

Bless you, Thankyou for sharing this with me. I have sent her the link for NOCD but she won’t go On the chat rooms - she used to have intrusive thoughts when she was about 8 they seems to go Away and then At xmas Start to Come Back and Now Turned To this sort of thing, how do your parents help you , if we don something she doesn’t like She will have a Major Panic attack and gets so stressed and I don’t like to see Her with the discomdort, she can be quite horrible to xxx I’m so glad you have had the strength to fight this nasty bully xxxxxx

Have you watched Unstuck https://www.ocdkidsmovie.com/ together? It might be a gentler way of opening the conversation. The book "Talking Back to OCD" is also a great parent resource. Also here is the iocdf kids and parents pagehttps://kids.iocdf.org/

Yes thankyou I’ve watched it and my daughter is having therapy - it’s just so hard To Know sometimes if she just doesnt want to do the things I ask like tidy then mess Around the place she sits Or try And get the matted tangles out of her hair that she has Neglected. She has started some ERP but doesn’t push herself and when the therapist over Skype says so This Etc she is like Mum I don’t want to mum !! And it’s Hard and if I Keep on at her she just wants To Argue And fight and says it’s Me making her so It - But we have to Live with it too, it’s like walking on egg shells ! To be honest, it is like she doesn’t care what it’s doing to rest of us Only her, I’m a Type 1 Diabetic so it isn’t helping me being stressed and upset alit if the time when everything has to Turn Into a Big thing. Sometimes I just don’t want to be here so I don’t have to watch her Like this But I have to be the strong one and take what’s thrown at Me . I Keep saying we aren’t going to do Ocd - but when she won’t eat the food or Coe Into the room when u r facing her incase of Nose Breathing or you itch your Nose it’s hard. I will just have to be patient - She Shows Know Interest in reading or watching anything- at the No it is Lock Down But she will have to Go back to School when Back Open And it will Be so hard For her. I have Had Inspirational message from a young girl, who is doing so well. So hopefully my daughter will see soon that this is the way to go. Thankyou