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- 5y
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- 5y
Hi! I am 13 and one of my themes is mental contamination. I used to go to the hospital weekly believing I had appendicitis. Blood tests were a regular thing. ERP has helped tremendously. It sounds like your daughter is quite scared. I don't know her so I could be WAY off, but it seems to be that after she did ERP once she realised how hard it was. Unfortunately it is one of the only ways for your OCD to improve. I once had to go to school with a pounding headache and blotchy vision as part of ERP, because it was just a migraine and I panicked about it being other things and researched everything on the planet. I still get these thoughts and Coronavirus hasn't helped, and I still sanitised my hands up to my elbows, but it's a lot more manageable than it was before, and all of that is thanks to ERP. One of the things that I can do now is gardening. It is so relaxing and I'm so glad it isn't such a problem to me any more. Your life is so much more free when you don't have so mmany compulsions knocking at your door. Now that that theme isn't so bad, I have more time to focus on the others. I hope this helped in some way! I've been living with OCD since i was around 6 or 7, so I've come to learn a lot about how horrible it is, which has fuelled my determination with ERP
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- 5y
Thank you much. You are a very mature young lady and should be so proud of what you have achieved. I understand that the. Fears feel like it’s Life or death so understand how scared she is. Your mum and dad must be so proud and your message to me will inspire many other teenagers living with this awful Bully. Ocd is the illness and The doubt is the symptom, well done for facing your fears and confronting the bully. It’s true the things you fear like the mental contamination and the bogies and snot ( my daughters triggers) won’t hurt you but OCD will. Wishing you an amazing life, I know from My daughters suffering what you have been through. You are an inspiration!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you don’t Mind if I Message again at Some point to ask your advice. Take care Best wishes from a mum who just wants to help her daughter x
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- 5y
Of course! Ask any time I would be happy to help! OCD is hard and I haven't nearly recovered, but that what this app is for! I seem very mature now but I promise that a lot of the time I am not, OCD brings me down ?
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- 5y
Also I completely forgot to mention earlier but it is my recommendation that you start of battling the smaller compulsions and make your way up, as I have a lot of compulsions that are too big and rooted to fight right now, but I know that if I start off small I will one day be able to make the big compulsions at least a little easier to handle. I hope your daughter find OCD a little easier soon, and thank you so much for wishing me well, I hope my OCD eases off soon too. It's hard for everybody, no matter who you are, OCD or not, in this difficult time, so I hope you and your whole family are safe and happy
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- 5y
I wish I could say that I fully understood your daughters compulsions - I do not as my compulsions for each form including this one are very different, but I am very pleased that you believe that i was helpful, it made me feel very happy. I would just like to say that i admire you greatly, you are clearly caring and passionate and will do anything to help your daughter, it reminds me of what my mum does every day and it's great to see how supportive you are. You're also very inspiring and other others should strive to be as accepting as you are! X
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- 5y
@EvaJazz Thankyou xxxxxx best wishes and I hope you have a gorgeous day xxxx
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- 5y
Bless you, Thankyou for sharing this with me. I have sent her the link for NOCD but she won’t go On the chat rooms - she used to have intrusive thoughts when she was about 8 they seems to go Away and then At xmas Start to Come Back and Now Turned To this sort of thing, how do your parents help you , if we don something she doesn’t like She will have a Major Panic attack and gets so stressed and I don’t like to see Her with the discomdort, she can be quite horrible to xxx I’m so glad you have had the strength to fight this nasty bully xxxxxx
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- 5y
Well my mum has helped by helping me make mind maps and other things like charts of different kinds of ERP, and encouraging me. Sometimes she'll put me in a situation that gives me anxiety, and I'll dislike her while its happening, but I thank her so much once we've moved past it. It's so great that you're making such an effort to help. Another thing I do is I keep a journal. I write all of my compulsions in the front of the book and what I fear will happen if I don't do it, then I'll tweak the compulsion so it's a little more lenient, and then write whether the fear came true or not. When you look back at it it really shows you how the routines aren't too important. Nothing will completely eliminate the thoughts and fears, but this definitely helps. Also maybe buy her a pair of gloves (latex or gardening, maybe even rubber gloves) and have her do some light gardening. This way she won't get dirty but she'll get more comfortable around dirt? I don't know much about your daughter so I'm not sure if this will be too much, but it definitely helped me. I get intrusive thoughts too about multiple different things, and facing my fears is a very effective form of ERP. I hope this helped!
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- 5y
Have you watched Unstuck https://www.ocdkidsmovie.com/ together? It might be a gentler way of opening the conversation. The book "Talking Back to OCD" is also a great parent resource. Also here is the iocdf kids and parents pagehttps://kids.iocdf.org/
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- 5y
Yes thankyou I’ve watched it and my daughter is having therapy - it’s just so hard To Know sometimes if she just doesnt want to do the things I ask like tidy then mess Around the place she sits Or try And get the matted tangles out of her hair that she has Neglected. She has started some ERP but doesn’t push herself and when the therapist over Skype says so This Etc she is like Mum I don’t want to mum !! And it’s Hard and if I Keep on at her she just wants To Argue And fight and says it’s Me making her so It - But we have to Live with it too, it’s like walking on egg shells ! To be honest, it is like she doesn’t care what it’s doing to rest of us Only her, I’m a Type 1 Diabetic so it isn’t helping me being stressed and upset alit if the time when everything has to Turn Into a Big thing. Sometimes I just don’t want to be here so I don’t have to watch her Like this But I have to be the strong one and take what’s thrown at Me . I Keep saying we aren’t going to do Ocd - but when she won’t eat the food or Coe Into the room when u r facing her incase of Nose Breathing or you itch your Nose it’s hard. I will just have to be patient - She Shows Know Interest in reading or watching anything- at the No it is Lock Down But she will have to Go back to School when Back Open And it will Be so hard For her. I have Had Inspirational message from a young girl, who is doing so well. So hopefully my daughter will see soon that this is the way to go. Thankyou
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- 14w
My daughter was just diagnosed with OCD, and is in denial. Her brother is the source of contamination for her. Everything he does, triggers her. She will not be in the same room as him, and it's only getting worse. If you were a child in denial, refusing medication and therapy, what helped you to finally accept help?
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- 11w
My husband and I have 3 kids.. ages 13, 7 & 1. Our 13 year old has always been somewhat “different”, even as a toddler. He was very quiet and socially awkward. Not much has changed in that department. He isn’t into sports and has a very hard time finding anything at all that interests him. He doesn’t have many friends as he is still awkward and has a hard time fitting in. He has OCD. Specifically moral OCD. He feels like he has to confess everything to me that he feels isn’t appropriate. Curse words he hears on tv, something off-color that he or his friends said at school, anything sexual he hears on tv or in a joke. He laughingly tells me but he is reading my face to gauge my reaction on the subject every time. We tell him constantly that he doesn’t have to confess to us but, of course, those who know much about OCD know that this is harder than just simply telling them they don’t have to give into their compulsions. He is very anxious and worries about everything. He also has inattentive ADHD so he’s currently on medicine for that but can’t tell if it’s actually helping anything or not. He’s on anxiety meds too that we are trying to assess. Honestly, we have also wondered if he may be on the spectrum but high-functioning. Not sure. We are very worried about his future. He is not maturing and doesn’t care to learn how to better himself since he’s getting older. Anyway, now that I’ve given a little background, my reason for posting is that I wonder if we have created all of this. First of all.. I am a hovering mom. Im very overprotective and have a hard time letting my kids do much because I’m anxious myself. I grew up with a yelling mom and stepdad. Sadly, I have resorted to this trauma behavior much of my son’s life as well. I try my hardest not to lose my temper and yell but, I am very ashamed to say, that I haven’t been able to do a very good job with that. I have been overly critical also. Learned behavior. I will add that we are also a religious family that goes to church and follows the Bible. My husband was raised differently. His parents are very mild mannered and calm. Very sweet with my husband and his sister growing up and they aren’t “yellers”. They live out in the country and are very lax about many rules when my children go out there. Not that they let them do whatever they want but at the same time… they do seem to have a hard time saying no. My sister in law and her family live across the street from my in laws so they’re all out in the country together living their peaceful, carefree life. 🙄 They seem to think that my husband and I have brought all of this on ourselves with how we have so many rules and boundaries. They’re of the mindset that we should be exposing him to movies with curse words and letting him hear innnapropriate things and curse words more. This is how they parent their 10 year old (who is homeschooled so.. in my opinion they don’t have to worry so much about him repeating the curse words at school. We are at a Christian, private school where I also teach so it’s a bigger deal making sure my kids don’t hear those things and repeat). Anyway.. first and foremost, I’m looking for advice on how to reverse the damage from me losing my temper these last 13 years. I swear I am trying my hardest and strive everyday to be a good mom. I want so badly for them to WANT to keep a close relationship with us when they become adults living on their own. But I am so scared I’m ruining them. Does it seem to be the case? Also, do you think we have caused this OCD? Be honest with everything please. I am constantly very worried we are doing this wrong.
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- 10w
Okay so my parents don't really handle my ocd that well. For starters my contamination is getting worse (I'm 14) and keep exisivly washing my hands, or using toilet roll which is unfortunately really common. Now they are getting angry at me for using too much toilet roll... What do I do? There saying I'm ruining there lifes because of my ocd. I'm making there lifes miserable. And they don't COMMUNICATE or sit down with me and look me in the eyes and try sort it out WITH ME. they just go "STOP USING SO, MUCH TOILET ROLL" "you've broke another headset" "WE ARE ALLOWED TO BE PISSED AT YOU" and I'm getting self harm urges because there making me out to be such a bad person. Which obviously doesn't mix well with ocd.
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