AdamRoyale
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pureolifepureolife
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You said yourself in your post: you’re seeking reassurance. That’s a compulsion and it’s not going to help you or anyone reading this. Maybe it’s normal for SOOCD. But maybe it’s not. You don’t need to know and shouldn’t keep trying to answer this if you want to recover from OCD. Lean into the uncertainty. Others experiences aren’t yours anyways.
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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I know but every time in checkers myself it’s always told me I’m gay and not straight so I know who I am but it makes me feel doubtful of my self
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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I read others peoples experiences to find that I’m not wrong and that I’m right
pureolifepureolife
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@AdamRoyale No matter how many times or how many different ways you “check,” your OCD will never let you be “sure”. You have to stop checking. It may make you feel better in the short term to get a temporary answer, but your OCD will always find something new to question. Until you can start resisting your checking compulsion and stop seeking certainty, your obsession will continue to torture you.
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pureolife I know I just don’t wanna feel wrong I know I’m Gay cause everything I check it told me I attracted to men not women I’m scared I had it when I was 16 I’m not 19 and scared I know who I am but I get grinoal responces from intestine thought looking at people even unwanted attraction when I know I’m Gay
pureolifepureolife
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@AdamRoyale @AdamRoyale I understand. I had SOOCD at one point as well. And recovered from it. I speak from experience both with OCD and with this theme. You don’t need to keep compiling “evidence” that you are exactly who you know you are. You don’t need to prove anything. And you don’t even need to be certain. In fact, the more you can lean into accepting uncertainty about every trigger, the more you’ll heal. If reassurance is a big compulsion for you, it’s time to start resisting it. I know that’s easier said than done! And in the short term it will SUCK. More anxiety, more intrusive thoughts, more uncertainty. But after a few weeks of resisting this, you’ll notice a big difference. The more compulsions you cut out and the more you embrace not needing to “know” this, the better you will feel in the long run. And you will be able to reclaim your identity.
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pureolife Omg Ur like ocd Jesus
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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I’m just seeking if anyone has b this exsperience before
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pure093 Sexuality is not a choice
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pure093 Oh yeah I just believe that who you are is who you are and my mine makes me feel doubtful of myself
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pure093 So do you have ocd?
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@AdamRoyale Or would u say u given up
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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I mean to me it’s not mine telling me I’m wrong and I should dobut myself for it
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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Do u believe who u are is a choice
roguesteadyroguesteady
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I’m a gay woman but I’ve had this happen too, when sexual orientation OCD affects a situation of mine with a man. It causes so much doubt and distress for me, but I think it’s typical for SO-OCD.
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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Yes hun it is I’m Gay as well and looking at people can Also creat a grinoal response have u had that happened to u?
roguesteadyroguesteady
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@AdamRoyale Yes
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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Hey hun I’m gay aswell have u had a grinoal response just from looking at something I have ?
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@roguesteady Omg it’s soo annoying
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