- Username
- Nasim
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m pretty sure most parents of OCD children get tired after some time, but that’s no excuse to say horrible things to their sons or daughters. My parents are kind of like your mom, they think therapy will change me after one session. They don’t understand that it takes time. My father doesn’t even believe that I have a mental illness.
My family doesn’t even know that I think I have a mental illness or something wrong going with me I suppose
More than me i think my parents needed reassurance that ocd is a mental illness and not some shit that is explained by general reasoning. They thought that i put myself under ocd because i thought too negatively during my life... I'm just glad i have their general support don't care that they don't assist me in my ocd battles I'm grateful for them but their opinion on my OCD doesn't matter...
Just tell them its something in the chemicals of the brain, one chemical is messed up and that is an amazing thing about human brain that it is so balanced that one this is messed up it would mess your ideas and thoughts I know it is not just brain chemicals but it is very related you know? You might want to search this more before you tell them about it
@Bisho I'm in a considerably good relation with them then before. I don't wanna mess it up. I can possibly imagine the conversation going like this Me talks about chemicals in brain My parents: brains have chemicals wut..
@N0 They dont know about brain having chemicals? Its ok to not know but because my mom is actually someone who educates me about it I can not completely relate but you might be right Maybe there will be a time where it is actually possible to tell them this idk But since it is a good relation between you and your parents then that is good, may it last
@Bisho This latter “may it last” is a prayer, just to not get it misunderstood
This is not a nice thing to tell you, i dont know and dont think that I have ocd, I have not meet a therapist yet, but I used to always seeks assurance and share stuff with my mother until she actually shouted at me (not literally shout but rather a loud annoyed voice) and told me to go and pray to God to help me and that she is just a human like me, and I do forgive her for that because what she said was accurate, but that does not mean that I have problems either
I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. When they don’t understand it can definitely cause anger, frustration, etc. My parents have been weird about it. When we thought it was just anxiety for they seemed fine with everything but once it came out to be OCD it’s like the frustration and doubt came in. My mom gets almost annoyed it seems or maybe it’s just worrisome when I talk to her about it. She has told me “you’ve never dealt with this before so unless you’re not telling me something... (implying I did something and hid it from her that caused my OCD), you’re just looking up things online and claiming it as your own, you keep jumping around from therapist to therapist (I only switched once from a regular therapist to an OCD specialist), etc.”. My dad has been more supportive but he doesn’t get it. When I first told him I had OCD he said I didn’t have it, then said I probably got it from him.
so i need to vent here because i'm sick to the point of wanting to throw up. ill be talking about how my ocd started. I think my ocd is a little different as I've never seen anyone with that kind of intrusive thinking, so my ocd makes me think it's real. my intrusive thoughts are like "I wish something bad could happen to this person" and it's something really, really bad that I abhor. I just don't want it to happen to the person, it's totally automatic and makes me want to cry all the time. and it all started with a book I was reading and I didn't know it had things like pedophilia and rape. and as I'm underage these things can easily get stuck in my head, there was an explicit scene and it felt like my body was reacting to it, even I DON'T WANT TO and that made me feel really bad. I never had thoughts like that before reading that fucking book I regret so much. and then for me it's very hard to recover, because my ocd says something like i want it to happen, but definitely not. I can't access the erp because I'm not fluent in english and much less have money already converted to real is absurd. I'm afraid to go to therapy because there aren't many therapists who specialize in ocd here and I'm afraid it could get worse. I already talked about ocd with my mother but she didn't understand much, in fact I was fine and she said something that made my situation worse. so that's it, sorry for the big text, but I needed it.
I have OCD and a while back I sent my mother an article explaining what OCD was like for people with OCD and she still doesn’t get it. Every time I have an off day she says I’m letting my OCD win or she will say that I should schedule my worrying for later. Sometimes she will even say that I like having OCD because I like feeling like a victim. I have told her time and time again that OCD doesn’t work like that but she keeps trying to relate it back to her as in she tries to say that she was anxious once too but then she just decided not to be anxious anymore and she got better. She is also the reason why my OCD got so bad before I decided to get help since she told me just to not be anxious anymore. It’s really hard because whenever I have off days she seems to make them worse.
my mom and my sister keep making fun of me for my ocd. when things aren’t a certain way i get very twitchy and upset. my sister always laughs at me and tells everyone. my mom has talked to a number of my therapists about what ocd actually is , yet she yells at me and gets legit mad when i have compulsions. does anyone have any suggestions on what to say back because nothing works and i’m sick of being mad fun of.
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