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What are their thoughts about? :(
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I think you shouldn't tell it conclude anything by saying that they are ego syntonic. Maybe I can help if you tell me what their thiught contents are
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@sanzida? Oof so many typos, I'm extremely sorry :(
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@sanzida? Don’t worry about the typos! Their thoughts involve stealing money when doing their job. They seem to present with anxiety about the thoughts, but they mentioned several times they also have thoughts of ‘maybe I should just do it’. I don’t want to jump to conclusions because honestly I’ve also had unwanted thoughts like “just do it”, but they caused extreme anxiety and I’m just not sure if they are for them. I’m concerned about potentially giving wrong advice to someone who is considering acting out, but I’m also very concerned about making someone’s OCD worse! I know it would destroy everyone here if we were told ‘maybe you’re actually going to do ___’
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Thoughts of "just doing it" and other things like that can definitely come if the initial thoughts have been coming for a long time of have been extremely intense. I frequently wish my OCD worries would just become true already so I won't have to carry them anymore, and I get thoughts of making them happen. Just because it can be in that format doesn't mean they want them. Plus with stuff like harm OCD it can be directives and accusations instead of just a what if and fear that you might do it. When I had harm OCD as a child, I'd get the what if followed by accusations that I want to do it, and occasionally urges to do it and the feeling that I should and images of doing it. Also can be part of compulsions of imagining doing it. If they told you they don't want the thoughts and are pretty sure they don't want to do it, it's just the obsession/testing/questioning which is giving them suspicion that they do want to do it etc, then they're ego dystonic. The worst thing you can do when someone opens up to you that they're having thoughts they don't want and are worried about them is to interpret that they do want the thoughts. As sanzida says, maybe people can give better advice if you're more specific but I really can't imagine someone who has thoughts they enjoy (otherwise known as fantasies) and yet being disturbed by them and wanting them to go away. There can be e.g. social reasons why someone who fantasises about the same sex might find them distressing and not want them but they still recognise that they enjoy them. When intrusive thoughts are non distressing, that's OCPD and that's where you get neat freaks who enjoy being neat freaks and aren't upset that they have the thoughts. The person who reached out to you clearly feels like the thoughts and ideas aren't in alignment with who they are and they don't like it when they have them or want them. Probably your role is to direct them to support networks like NOCD and not become their personal counselor.
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- 9w
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- 7w
Hey guys, just responded to a post about someone having their ROCD struggles and thought I might share in other groups as well in case it helps. While not everyone has ROCD, maybe some of my message can help others with this battle if it’s not something you guys already know. Maybe some of you guys can add your own thoughts as well. I’d encourage you guys to read my message even if you don’t share the Christian faith as I do. I encourage you guys further to read the Bible yourselves (what does it even say, anyway?). I’m only just a newbie to it, too, but it has helped a lot. The context: This is a response to someone who’s having guilt about their thoughts, partly because it goes against their faith. Anyway, here it goes: I can empathize and relate, especially when faith starts being thrown into the intrusive thought loop. My suggestion is to live your life according to your faith and your values, not your thoughts or feelings. Previously you might have used your thoughts and feelings to guide you as a compass, but try making God and His teachings your compass instead. Read the Bible, heck read it with your partner- that might help with feeling connected with him. Live your life according to your morals, not the world as “the heart is deceitful” (Jeremiah, 17:9) and the world has a way of demonizing certain relationship struggles (“you should be attracted to your partner”, “you shouldn’t question your relationship”, “you should have the same interests as your partner”, “you shouldn’t feel abc because it means xyz”). Make yourself a list for all the things you like about your partner, continually add/review them, and you will relearn to feel the feeling of appreciating them. What qualities about your relationship/partner have you enjoyed/make you stay? Love and loving relationships are built, not found. Notice how the reasons why you “don’t love” or “shouldn’t be with your partner” go against what God would want for you and are shallow lies from the world disguised as truths. Challenge these beliefs you’ve heard/held about relationships that are sabotaging yours. Have you considered maybe God wants you to stay with a loving partner who is good to you and cares for you? (assuming your bf is.) And lastly, find a therapist who SPECIALIZES in ocd. I’ve tried therapists who didn’t know what it was and not only were they unable to support me in the way I needed it but they kept unknowingly feeding my doubts. You are not a bad person or bad partner for having these thoughts. If you have not physically acted on your distressing thoughts, this is an extremely good sign. The fact that you know it’s wrong is a very good thing. Keep trying, even if you lose hope. Best of luck
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- 6w
I’ve been really struggling lately with identifying whether I feel a certain way about a situation or people around me or if I’m having intrusive thoughts. Lately, I’ve noticed talking it out with a friend is my first line of defense, sometimes just verbalizing those thoughts can help me hear what I’m saying, and actually start to process how I feel. I do get caught up in making the right decision after that, and it weighs on me heavily, and this is when I struggle to take action or become distant with others that’re in said situation. I try to do more grounding techniques and things that make me happy, I tend to try to focus on something like work or household chores and then relax with a good Gordon Ramsey show hehehe, but I still sit with that confusion of whether this is how I feel? What if it’s just an intrusive thought? What if I’m making the wrong decision or what if I don’t have grounds to feel the way I think I am feeling. This is when talking it out helps for me, but I still always have that inkling that I’m making the wrong decision regardless of what I choose. Does anyone have any coping skills suggestions to aid in this sort of struggle? I feel like it can be quite common to be stuck in those mental gymnastics with your ocd and I’m really curious what you guys do to help process these feelings yourself. I tend to spend time with my pets, watch a show, call a friend, but I’m curious if maybe there’s a recommendation that would work for me that I haven’t tried : ) thank you all for listening!! This is my first community post hehehe
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