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What are their thoughts about? :(
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I think you shouldn't tell it conclude anything by saying that they are ego syntonic. Maybe I can help if you tell me what their thiught contents are
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@sanzida? Oof so many typos, I'm extremely sorry :(
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@sanzida? Don’t worry about the typos! Their thoughts involve stealing money when doing their job. They seem to present with anxiety about the thoughts, but they mentioned several times they also have thoughts of ‘maybe I should just do it’. I don’t want to jump to conclusions because honestly I’ve also had unwanted thoughts like “just do it”, but they caused extreme anxiety and I’m just not sure if they are for them. I’m concerned about potentially giving wrong advice to someone who is considering acting out, but I’m also very concerned about making someone’s OCD worse! I know it would destroy everyone here if we were told ‘maybe you’re actually going to do ___’
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Thoughts of "just doing it" and other things like that can definitely come if the initial thoughts have been coming for a long time of have been extremely intense. I frequently wish my OCD worries would just become true already so I won't have to carry them anymore, and I get thoughts of making them happen. Just because it can be in that format doesn't mean they want them. Plus with stuff like harm OCD it can be directives and accusations instead of just a what if and fear that you might do it. When I had harm OCD as a child, I'd get the what if followed by accusations that I want to do it, and occasionally urges to do it and the feeling that I should and images of doing it. Also can be part of compulsions of imagining doing it. If they told you they don't want the thoughts and are pretty sure they don't want to do it, it's just the obsession/testing/questioning which is giving them suspicion that they do want to do it etc, then they're ego dystonic. The worst thing you can do when someone opens up to you that they're having thoughts they don't want and are worried about them is to interpret that they do want the thoughts. As sanzida says, maybe people can give better advice if you're more specific but I really can't imagine someone who has thoughts they enjoy (otherwise known as fantasies) and yet being disturbed by them and wanting them to go away. There can be e.g. social reasons why someone who fantasises about the same sex might find them distressing and not want them but they still recognise that they enjoy them. When intrusive thoughts are non distressing, that's OCPD and that's where you get neat freaks who enjoy being neat freaks and aren't upset that they have the thoughts. The person who reached out to you clearly feels like the thoughts and ideas aren't in alignment with who they are and they don't like it when they have them or want them. Probably your role is to direct them to support networks like NOCD and not become their personal counselor.
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I think when people are saying OCD is egodystonic is really triggering me and I was just wondering if this has happened to anyone else? I’m going through a really bad relapse and right now I’m trying to figure out if my thoughts are truly egodystonic, like I how do I know I won’t act on them, how can I trust my emotions and everything. I feel really confused and I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore or how I carry on with life because it’s so long and I’m so unsure of everything that’s going on in my head. Like how do I know that this is OCD and true desires/urges. I’m so confused.
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I had my second session with a therapist and they told me they don’t think I have OCD. They think that I have just intrusive thoughts. They also said they don’t do diagnosis. I also noticed they did not ask me questions about my different themes.This has made me so confused. Even though I had a terrible fear that a therapist will tell that I don’t have it, (which is the main reason why I had not gone to one) I did suspect I had it because I identify with many of the symptoms. On the website it says that they treat it but I don’t think they are like a specialist. On the first session they described OCD mainly as needing to have things symmetrical and fear of contamination. I have a feeling that they don’t know much about it. I also didn’t mentioned all the themes I think I have because I’m scared to be misunderstood. I am not sure what to do. I can’t afford seeing an OCD therapist at NOCD. Can anyone give an insight, has something similar happened to you? Thank you!
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Hi Everyone! I hope whoever is reading this is having a good day so far :) So for years now I’ve had very bad intrusive thoughts about things that I have done or embarrassing things that I’ve said or have happened and it’s mortifying and debilitating on a daily basis. Specifically these thoughts are mainly things that have occurred from 2018-2020 and some are more simple just as a stupid joke I made or being way too loud on calls while my family was trying to sleep and others being way more complex such as past relationships and how I’ve hurt some of the people I care the most about and when I have acted on intrusive thoughts and these thoughts will appear with no triggers at all I’ll just wake up and already have something I did just nagging me. I don’t want to live like this anymore and I’ve tried working through it with self compassion but sometimes the things I said or did back then it’s very hard to forgive myself for and I’ll reminisce on it for hours on hours, gaslight myself into believing that’s not how it happened and try to change the memory itself, or just suppress it entirely. I know those habits aren’t healthy and truly I want to get better but I don’t know how to overcome some of these thoughts. I have talked to my fiancé about this a few times and even today we talked about it and he fully supports me and is helping me work through it. I might also contact my sister too, I don’t talk to her overly too much but ever since I was little she’s thought I’ve had ocd and was one of the people who made me consider that I might have it (I’m still undiagnosed but I’ll try to when I have the money and time) and I know she could maybe provide some insight. Another thing that is troublesome about the situation is my other family members specifically my mom aren’t the most helpful and can trigger thoughts. To put it in perspective on how her thought process is and some background info she is an ER nurse and has been for 30 years due to this she believes she knows mainly everything there is about mental health and she gets extremely upset when I don’t take her advice or set boundaries. She’ll force me to talk to her about my problems and when I don’t want to she’ll pin me in a corner where I’m forced to and last summer I had a really bad episode and was really overstimulated and I just finished taking a shower and due to the water on me, my hair being wet (my hair is naturally curly and it takes forever to dry and it’s very draining taking care of even with a keratin treatment) and all the intrusive thoughts I was having and she forced me to talk to her and I did open up for the first time about my thoughts and brought up how sometimes I have thoughts of hurting my animals and it makes me physically sick. Her response to this was threatening to call the cops on me saying it was a behavioral thing and I was doing it for attention. I have never hurt any of my animals but later that day my cat came into my room and a few minutes later she comes up just gives me the death stare and after a few seconds just asks me “are you going to go kill snickers?” In the most condescending tone and she’s always like this daily where she’ll force advice onto me or get upset and yell and then reinforce thoughts I’m having. I just want to know first how to stop the thoughts from so frequently and how to heal in an environmental where it keeps reopening wounds despite trying to place boundaries? I’m sorry this is really long I usually do go really in detail about things and it’s just how I’ve always been. If anyone has any questions feel free to ask and I’ll answer them to the best of my ability. I really appreciate the time you took to read this and thank you for your help! 🥰
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