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Yes, you were sexually abused by your cousin and I can’t imagine anyone NOT being angry and upset about this. Are you talking to a therapist about it? I was also sexually abused and it helped so much to talk to a therapist about it.
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Thanks for saying that because it makes my feelings feel slightly more valid. I feel like I shouldn't feel upset because it was never properly acknowledged and I never got help. I forgot about it until I was about 13 and I connected the dots between the intrusive thoughts and what he did to me. I'm not talking to a therapist. Sorry you've had it happen to you. I just feel that because he was also a child, it could be deemed as harmless. But for me it was very harmful. He would show me porn channels on tv, he would force me into situations and I would always feel guilty because I wasnt allowed to tell my mum. When I eventually did I felt that I was confessing and still to this day, as a 22 year old, I have to confess everything to my mum. I carry around so much guilt and shame, not necessarily from what he did but sexual things I did as a teenager like for many years I watched porn and visited porn sites and I'm constantly ashamed of that. I've never had a boyfriend or any relationship as of yet but I worry how this will impact me in the future, having so much shame and guilt in me. It's really hard. And then I feel that I'm blaming it on him when really I intrusive thoughts are my fault. :( idk but thankyou so much for validating my feelings.
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@MJocd Please know that the fact that he was a child does not mean that he didn’t sexually abuse you. Children can and do assault other children. Sometimes, both children do sexual things as a form of discovery and play, but in this case, this was not consensual and he was abusing you. Any therapist who does not recognize that would have to be very uneducated. It’s also really common for children who are sexually abused to have hyper-sexual behaviors afterwards, like what you’re describing with watching pornography. None of this is your guilt or shame to carry. This is the abuser’s guilt and shame. The abuse is a reflection on him and his character, not on you or your character. I’ve gone through therapy for sexual abuse and I also have a master’s degree in childhood development so I promise I’m not making this up! I’m so sorry you are going through this.
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I’m so sorry you experienced that. No one should EVER have to experience something like that. You didn’t deserve it and it’s not your fault. You are 1 million percent allowed to feel however you feel about the situation. He took advantage of you and that’s NOT okay! But I want you to know, you ARE strong enough to fight this and not let the memories or him control you. I think if you work out what happened with a therapist or an OCD/trauma specialist you’ll have less OCD symptoms and it’ll make you feel better! It’s not a magical cure unfortunately ? it takes some work. but therapists are sooo smart and helpful and I think it’d be very beneficial. Best wishes for you and God bless ?
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