Yesterday my brother opened the garbage door on me after I just got out of the shower and out clean clothes on. I mentioned it before. I reminded him that it is something that bothers me even before o had ocd, of people opening doors and drawers on me without saying excuse me so I can get out of the way. He also wiped his hands in my towels and said oops like he didn’t care. He knows i want the hand towels being used and not my personal towels. He said I demand when I get triggered rather than requesting. However I have a feeling he’s trying to okay doctor and do things that bother me. I’m triggered to wash the towel out of retaliation.

Well the urge to retaliation is a relationship-resentment thing. OCD makes us resentful and controlling really easily actually because other people and their behaviour can be so triggering. But there's no need for him to aggravate it by doing things he wouldn't ordinarily do just to spike your anxiety. Then again, it can be hard to tell how he would ordinarily behave if he usually has to follow OCD rules. But yeah anger is normal. It might help to think of it as mostly your OCD which is mad at him for increasing your anxiety but a small part of it as you being irritated with him. That part where you're irritated with him probably needs some unpacking to be able to process it properly. Identifying as many bits of it as possible and naming emotions can help. For example, if I were feeling the way you do, my guess would be that it's because I feel a bit condescended to, a bit embarrassed that I have the OCD, and the shame from it would be making me feel irritated and defiant. It's good to be defiant against shaming, it's just important to remember that he's not trying to make you feel bad or humiliate you, he's trying to help because he loves you. He's not trying to fix you via shaming you or annoying you, he wants you to feel better. Part of the process of recovery is going to be getting annoyed and anxious and angry and not doing anything about it or blaming anyone, including yourself. Feelings are just feelings, you're not wrong to have them and they don't have to be anybody's fault. My guess is the anger with him is actually a result of the shame and negative self view and negative views of the relationship which are being triggered. As well as the OCD anxiety of course. If I didn't want to feel those things, I'd be pissed at the person and situation which caused them too. But you don't need to retaliate against your boyfriend by giving OCD what it wants.