I need to get this off my chest. I’m losing a friend. She has become a very hateful person. She’s racist and homophobic and transphobic and just this and that. The list goes on and on. She doesn’t respect me. She’s hurt me so many times in the past and not once said a meaningful sorry if she ever said sorry at all. And she will not see she’s getting worse with her paranoia and refuses to get help. Instead tries to tell you your own faults. I feel like a terrible person for being friends with her for so long bc I heard all the hateful things she said and I was always too scared to ever say or do anything. Another mutual friend just cut her off after we found out stuff she both did to us. Now I’m trying to cut her off. I just feel like I’m a terrible person because I was even friends with her for so long. I feel horrible and it makes me wanna isolate again.

Where’sMySer...

Date posted: 5y

You deserve to have friends who are supportive and treat you right! Maybe people cutting her off will make her realize how she’s acting and she’ll stop acting like that. And maybe she’ll realize how hateful views are the problem in this world. She sounds like a very toxic individual and as a fellow person with OCD, let me tell ya, having toxic friends is NOT helpful. Cause oooooo I’ve had so many. It sounds like you’ve tried to help her a lot but remember to help yourself too ? if someone doesn’t want your help then that’s on them! You’re doing the right things and if she doesn’t want it then there’s not much else you can do

XTrinstaX

Date posted: 5y

You’re not a horrible person. If she’s hurting your mental health then drop her. Take care of yourself first. If she is hurt by you not wanting to be friends then maybe she will have an awakening that she should change. You need positivity in your life. Go after that.

Mars

Date posted: 5y

I just feel like a terrible person because I was friends with someone for so long who would say such terrible things and I just let it happen bc I was always afraid.

XTrinstaX

Date posted: 5y

@Mars I once had a best friend who I loved with all my heart for 4 years. He was the only guy I trusted. But he treated me crap. I was so scared to drop him because I thought I would be alone. Once we finally stopped being friends I woke up so much. I started feeling better about myself. I went out more. Made more friends. Even got a boyfriend who I’m still with today. Trust me. Dropping toxic friends are for the best. Don’t be afraid. Be excited on how positive your life will become

Mars

Date posted: 5y

@TrinnyTrin I just hope being friends with her doesn’t make me racist or homophobic or transphobic or any of those bad things bc every time I did speak up it was always a fight and I was always the one saying sorry in the end

powoslood

Date posted: 5y

You’re not a terrible person, the fact that you are repulsed by her actions shows that you aren’t a terrible person. I cut off a friend who I had been friends with for years because she was like your friend. All I did was block her number and delete her off all my social media’s. And the rest was history. You can do this. Cut that girl outta your life!

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

She shouldn’t be racist with what’s going on

Mars

Date posted: 5y

She’s always been like that for two years. She literally does not care about anyone but herself.

Mars

Date posted: 5y

I just know I’m tired of her and her hateful views and I’m fighting for what I believe in and if she don’t like that she can kiss my ass p much

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

Racism is not okay at all and if she is homophobic or transphobic ask her why

Mars

Date posted: 5y

It doesn’t matter I already know why she is she does nothing but goes on 4chan. You can’t reason with someone like her.

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

Why does she go on 4chan

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