Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y
SophieSophie
- Date posted
- 5y
Yes!! I always worry about what I say to people especially online because I don't know how they'll react, even if what I say isn't necessarily mean just my opinion
FathomableFathomable
- Date posted
- 5y
Literally. I got a message on Facebook years ago from a random person claiming someone they knew killed themselves because I disagreed with them in a Facebook group. I dismissed it as almost definitely a complete lie and that if someone killed themselves they had a lot more going on mentally than some random online debate, but then got OCD about it a while afterwards. Years later a complete asshole I know threatened to kill himself because I dared relay a message that a girl he'd taken advantage of the previous night didn't want him to go see her that day. Same thing- at first I'm fully aware he's an overdramatic vicious pathetic piece of lint, then years later start to feel awful. Big sigh. ERP can help. Letting the worry come and make you feel shitty but not going over the memories or trying to work it out or find proof that it's not true etc. Once the anxiety stretches long enough it starts to just go away again. The way you feel more powerful and resilient by learning to treat thoughts that way is top notch ?
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 5y
What happened to me was I was a tiktok a like a month ago and i saw someone profile and it said he/him and on her live I was confused because I saw a girl and I said are you girl like in a confused way then they kicked me out of their live and now that I have ocd I am worried they may have killed themeselves or that they are feeling sucidal
FathomableFathomable
- Date posted
- 5y
@Troyofgreece Well, calling a trans person confused is probably upsetting yes but if they were assertive enough to kick you off the live and they took immediate control of the situation, chances are that they're used to that sort of thing. But like I said in my comment, let the worry come and then go again. The circumstances aren't really relevant to the OCD, it's still all about choosing which thoughts deserve your attention. The idea that this person killed themself is a thought, and you want to investigate it because if it's true you'd feel like it's all your fault and that sets of alarm bells. The reality is if it was true, it wouldn't be your fault. 1 dumb or rude comment doesn't kill someone unless it's the final straw out of a whole truckload of straws. Your straw wouldn't be any more important in it than all the other straws. We all need to be mindful of how we treat others, so it's ok to just do better and stop torturing yourself about this. This situation is no more meaningful than any other time in your life that you, like the rest of us, have said something harsh or insensitive. Any negative engagement we ever have with another person could contribute 1 straw to a suicide, but suicide is ultimately that individual's choice, decision and responsibility. When you feel waves of anxiety and shame about this thing you remember, don't try to fight it using my words. Let the feelings happen without trying to get rid of them or analyse them, and allow them to stay in your body until they decide to leave again- and they will leave. After you've processed emotions is the time to read stuff like my comment here.
andrea_sam730andrea_sam730
- Date posted
- 1y
@Fathomable Can I talk to you about something
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