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I have hocd you I’m sure you know what it is but somethings that helped me was stay away from the internet not in general just stay away from looking up articles and stories because that never helped me and also don’t test yourself what I would do to test my self was see if I could get an erection from gay thoughts and even gay porn never got an erection to either but my mind always still makes me question and one more thing is just live with uncertainty and go to a therapist for erp
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I’m bi & worry if I really care about my male partner because I’m actually a repressed lesbian, so I can relate a little. It seems like ERP could be the way to go with this! I’ve heard it responds well to it.
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(Comment died) and worry about similar stuff! It seems like ERP is the way to go with this, since theorizing yourself out of it is just a compulsion most of the time.
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I wanna add that sometimes people act like comp het is something to cure or realize your way out of, but it’s not: like homophobia, it’s a social force that always exists.
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So like, never feel bad about struggling with it, just like you wouldn’t judge yourself for struggling with homophobia or sexism!
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Know the feeling ...
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It’s called sexual orientation OCD
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Also hocd will never be rational I even started to push away straight thoughts and feelings when ever I would find a girl attractive my mind would say what if you’re not really attracted to her then i would get discouraged and would push the feeling of attraction away so I don’t get the thoughts but whenever I would test my self and not get an erection my mind would go to it’s cause you’re supressing it gay thoughts to me is like thinking of a chair it doesn’t do anything to me
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The book Pure by Rose Brotecher is extremely helpful for feeling less alone! The author writes about her experience with this.
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Spencer, it’s a memoir of Rose about her childhood path into adulthood trying to figure out if she is straight or attracted to women and how she accepted that type of OCD. She is funny, relatable, and provides good insight. It’s nice to read because A. It makes it very clear that she’s sick and her responses help solidify that your thoughts are purely Obsessive so you feel less alone and B. Helps give advice for how to cope. Her Instagram is Rose Cartwright!
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I have ocd around being gay when I’m not. So I understand what you’re going through and I’m sorry. Just know there’s tons of lgbt people with it too that I’ve seen so you’re not alone. Erp will totally help you with thus
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@kdot what does the book talk about?
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Is her book online for free?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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Im a straight man and sometimes I make the mistake of compulsively getting on here. It’s gotten better but I slip sometimes. I feel like I’m alone in this and I even read on some OCD page that Women are more likely to suffer from this theme than Men. That just makes me feel like I’m in denial of some sort. I feel alone and feel like my intrusive thoughts are different. I know that’s what everyone who has ocd thinks, but I can’t help shake the feeling like what if I’m lying to myself or what if I have some underlying secret. I don’t want to be gay. I find I argue with myself in my head over and over and sometimes by repeating “I don’t want to be gay, I want to be straight” I’ll end up saying the opposite and that would scare me even though I know that It happened because I’m constantly fighting with OCD. Just feeling a bit down today. I had a sexual dream about an ex girlfriend and it felt great and I’m not scared by it. I find and want to be with Women romantically til forever.
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