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I have hocd you I’m sure you know what it is but somethings that helped me was stay away from the internet not in general just stay away from looking up articles and stories because that never helped me and also don’t test yourself what I would do to test my self was see if I could get an erection from gay thoughts and even gay porn never got an erection to either but my mind always still makes me question and one more thing is just live with uncertainty and go to a therapist for erp
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I’m bi & worry if I really care about my male partner because I’m actually a repressed lesbian, so I can relate a little. It seems like ERP could be the way to go with this! I’ve heard it responds well to it.
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(Comment died) and worry about similar stuff! It seems like ERP is the way to go with this, since theorizing yourself out of it is just a compulsion most of the time.
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I wanna add that sometimes people act like comp het is something to cure or realize your way out of, but it’s not: like homophobia, it’s a social force that always exists.
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So like, never feel bad about struggling with it, just like you wouldn’t judge yourself for struggling with homophobia or sexism!
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Know the feeling ...
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It’s called sexual orientation OCD
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Also hocd will never be rational I even started to push away straight thoughts and feelings when ever I would find a girl attractive my mind would say what if you’re not really attracted to her then i would get discouraged and would push the feeling of attraction away so I don’t get the thoughts but whenever I would test my self and not get an erection my mind would go to it’s cause you’re supressing it gay thoughts to me is like thinking of a chair it doesn’t do anything to me
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The book Pure by Rose Brotecher is extremely helpful for feeling less alone! The author writes about her experience with this.
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Spencer, it’s a memoir of Rose about her childhood path into adulthood trying to figure out if she is straight or attracted to women and how she accepted that type of OCD. She is funny, relatable, and provides good insight. It’s nice to read because A. It makes it very clear that she’s sick and her responses help solidify that your thoughts are purely Obsessive so you feel less alone and B. Helps give advice for how to cope. Her Instagram is Rose Cartwright!
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I have ocd around being gay when I’m not. So I understand what you’re going through and I’m sorry. Just know there’s tons of lgbt people with it too that I’ve seen so you’re not alone. Erp will totally help you with thus
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@kdot what does the book talk about?
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Is her book online for free?
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I wouldn’t really say I have SO-OCD, but it manifests in some areas of my TOCD. Like if I see a woman for example my thoughts will go “what if I like her but as a man?” like my thoughts say I’m a straight man instead of a straight woman. And it’s really bothering me. If I see an attractive woman my brain will re-wire and imagine myself as a man looking at an attraction woman and it gets super uncomfortable that I have to like shake my head and say “no no no no no” multiple times to get the thought out. I know that counts as a compulsion but it’s hard to not do it because it’s so triggering. Now I don’t mind if I like women, however I’m really scared that I’m actually a straight man who likes women (or at least a bisexual man, considering I like men) and I hate it because I don’t want to be a man. Like I’ll think of my desired relationship as a woman dating a man but my OCD will switch it up to me being the man dating the woman, which is the opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be a man at all and I don’t want to date a woman, both of those are the opposite of my desires, but I’m still so scared. I’ll accept myself if I actually like women and am a bisexual woman, however I heard that being bisexual can mean being trans which scares me (for the record it was said in reddit by a sub which is mainly focused on a pseudoscientific phenomenon, that is still believed by the members to be true, so it’s definitely not a trustworthy statement, but my OCD will use anything to work against me) Does anyone here relate a little? 🥲
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I have a lot of trouble with my sexuality. I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality for years. I’ve dated a man, and I wasn’t really into the whole time. And since then I’ve thought that maybe I’m a lesbian because I’m attracted to women, which I know for sure. But then my brain spirals, I constantly think back ti memories with my ex, how I felt with him, I check how it makes me feel. I often google to see if other lesbians have felt similar, I ask ChatGpt over and over again. I feel like I have to be 100% certain or that im faking for attention, or thst I’ll end up with a man. I guess im wondering has anyone else felt like this ? What’s been your experience how do you manage it?
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Hello, so I’ve been struggling really badly with so-ocd where I am worried that I’m not actually straight when that’s what I’ve always thought and wanted to be. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now, he’s my first boyfriend and I really love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I remember one time, before I had struggles with so-ocd, I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I’m missing out on other men by staying with him’ and it didn’t really cause any anxiety but I felt quite guilty for thinking that. But I moved on. However, right now I’m in the depths of so-ocd it started back in March I believe, and today I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I never get the opportunity to try being with a woman because I’m in a relationship with a man’ and that has really set me off today. I’ve had a meltdown over it, my chest feels heavy and it felt so real like I actually wanted it and I had a feeling of wanting to be gay even though that’s not what I want in life. Why is this happening to me and I feel so horrible for thinking this like it felt like it was me and not the ocd and that I’m just lying to myself and my boyfriend. I’ve tried scrolling on here to see if anyone has had a similar thought or experience and I am aware that this is reassurance seeking but I just need someone to tell me that I’m okay
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