Need advise- so I’m 24 have a long history of ocd mostly superstations and worry with obsessive thinking. Under treatment I was able to control it but now it’s been back like another wave. I recently stared going to therapy again. My boyfriend (23) has his own struggles with anxiety and depression but he gets really bad. Like it affects him physically so much. Any one has experience in this? Relationships and dealing with mental health issues? I feel like it’s been a major factor in our relationship. Many times it has been me and my ocd and he is not really good about expressing himself but he is really really depressed (can function) but struggling a lot emotionally for a long time now

Nan

Date posted: 5y

Wow thank you for sharing. I feel all of what you are saying and I know it takes a lot. Yes it has coause so many issues in our relationship and it’s so sad because I feel like it just makes us feel very disconnected at times :(

IWeldDaily

Date posted: 5y

I feel the exact same way and we have a son together so our main focus is on him and work alot and then when we come together to spend time together, its so hard for us because we're both just spending our day in our own mental stress ?

IWeldDaily

Date posted: 5y

Yes I'm actually experiencing the same thing with my relationship now, so I feel anyway. But I'm 25 and I have OCD, bipolar and my girlfriend (23) has anxiety and depression and I do alot of ritualistic type OCD things, like counting things for hours throughout the day, hearing something bad and then going way to far with it, like in the future wise, which probably literally would never happen, checking my pockets, have a hard time leaving the house cause I always feel like if I don't count it before I leave, I'll never have it ever again and I have a hard time throwing trash away, not a hoarding type deal, I actually throw it away and have a very clean house! Its just not right away, like at the end of the day and my girlfriend hates it and its hard for me to not do it and then there are days where her depression is so bad she doesn't want to talk or anything and then my OCD is flaring and we both just don't talk and our problems never get solved and we just don't know how each other feels and its so mentally exhausting and we both love each other, have been together for 3 years now, we botb are getting help and trying to improve each day!

Nan

Date posted: 5y

Wow man yes it’s so painful like you want to try and do your best but our minds are so powerful they really do affect us and those around us :(

IWeldDaily

Date posted: 5y

Its so crazy to know how many people are actually suffering like I am and I was so afraid to reach out. My family or friends don't have OCD and pretty much are basically "normal" and have no idea how I feel and it makes me feel alone, like my girlfriend doesn't have OCD and I've tried explaining and for someone who doesn't have it, they can let things go much easier, but for me even the simplest things make me go nuts ☹

Nan

Date posted: 5y

@Frostbite Yes I feel you man it’s so hard for people to not understand ocd the way we experience it. I been blessed with my boyfriend who often does not get it but has tried to understand but I know it’s still very hard for him and it makes me feel like I’m not enough for him which then just hurts me to much. Trust me though everyone struggles emotionally even if you think they are “normal” man

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