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When you accept the thought, you are not accepting that it is true. You are just accepting its presence. And when you are saying maybe I will, maybe I won’t, the goal isn’t to say you will, but just to end the cycle of ruminating before you get deep into it. You can still be uncertain about things that could happen and be confident that they probably wouldn’t. Uncertainty doesn’t mean 50/50, it just means making peace with the 1 in something chance that anything could happen (pigs could fly!!). I had this same concern so I read about it & talked to my therapist.
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I think it's especially important for these themes
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Definitely, but probably the hardest to implement. Moral ambiguity is a tough one for ocd sufferers.
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@Soph I agree. I struggle with it.
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Ugh I struggle with this theme as well. My pocd tells me I agree with pedophilia and that pedos should be allowed to do touch kids. Worst part is I don’t know what’s real and what isn’t. I also struggle with ‘if you do agree with this, no one will talk to you and you will become an outcast.’ Unfortunately, you do just have to go with it and feel those emotions without ruminating or fiddling with the thought
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Input please. Whenever I have a thought or come across something like news about pedophilia or other awful things, I feel like I try to make it okay in my head. Like I am trying to explain it away, excuse it. And when I look at that from a more compassionate lens, I think maybe I am just trying to process something bad. Maybe I am trying to make something horrific feel a little less horrifying so I can keep existing in a world where it happens. Because the truth is, whenever I hear about something terrible, it does not just go away. I do not have that ability to shove it aside and move on. I have to live with it. I carry it. I live my life alongside these awful things that exist. But then, when I look at it through a different lens, it gets darker. Maybe I am not trying to process something bad. Maybe I am actually trying to justify it. Maybe I am trying to convince myself it is not that bad… because deep down I agree with the people who do it. Or maybe I am afraid that if it were not so stigmatized, I would somehow be okay with it. And that thought worries me. I know that why someone holds moral values is not as important as the fact that they do. I know that what matters is your actions and your commitment to being a good person. It still scares me. I keep asking myself: am I trying to justify something awful just so I can mentally survive it, or am I trying to justify something awful because some part of me agrees with it?
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17f So basically I think you know this whole accept and sit with the uncertainty thing. It applies to pocd as well. Because you can ruminate, test yourself, seek reassurance as much as you want but it will never be enough for you brain to be sure you are not a P. So you need to sit with "Maybe I am a P maybe not" and just don't do anything about it. So sometimes I can do that. But here comes moral ocd. If I accept the chanse of me being a pedophile, isn't it morally wrong for me to be around children? Look at children? Watch movies with children in it? Cause now I can't even look at children even if it was an accident without freaking out and thinking that I'm a monster. Sometimes it feels morally wrong to leave the house because there is a chanse I can meet a child on the street I genuinely don't know what to do. It feels paralyzing at this point. Seems like I can't do anything. Like I even need to cover children on the screen with my hand when I watch a movie. It's exhausting.
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I've been told a lot that in order to get better, we need to tolerate uncertainty, which yea I get that and I'm trying every day more and more to reach that point!! But I've also been told that we need to tolerate uncertainty AND "our worst fears becoming true". Like how does that work, especially with POCD, OCD about a///ault, SA and all of that? Like that is really difficult for me and I don't really understand how I'm supposed to just shrug stuff like that off
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