How r u even supposed to tell a girl, hey I like girls but have constant gay intrusive thoughts about men want to be my girlfriend lol it's a mindfuck and embarrassing

Don’t say gay feelings or urges, you have ocd so you tell your partner you have ocd, if she ask what about you say I get horrible if thoughts that create anxiety, if they say what the you say what it is, I explained I worry if my family does or I end up alone or turn gay because these things are important to me and I don’t want them to happen

You know your truth. That's why exposure therapy and acceptance is so important. You dont owe anyone anything.

that’s why i really wanna work on myself, completely overcome hocd, before getting a bf.