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What bothers you more—the uncertainty of whether or not there is soap on you, or actually having soap on you? For some people it’s the uncertainty they need to expose themselves to. For instance, I think it actually makes me less anxious to think “I’m a bad person” than “Maybe I’m a bad person.” Since you’re trying to train yourself to sit with anxiety, I’d say do what makes you most anxious. If you *know* there’s soap on your TV, then you wouldn’t have to check. It would take away the compulsion. What you want to learn to do is not to compulse. That said, it could be valuable to learn “Hey, nothing bad happens when there’s soap on the TV.” Hope this helps!
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If I were to actually smear soap across my TV, it would bother me, but not in an OCD way. More like a there's soap smeared on my TV and I don't like that way. Also, leaving soap on screens can actually damage and discolor the pixels underneath. I think my biggest problem is that I don't know if I've randomly done that or not. Of course I wouldn't be completely okay with soap smeared across my TV or on my body. The thoughts that are bothering my right now are "What if I have?" And "What if I need to?" And I don't know what to do. That's the biggest fear. I don't know what to do.
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@canigetawitness Well. I’m no therapist. But to me it definitely sounds like the uncertainty of “what if it’s there” and “what if I should” bother you may more than the certainty of it being there or the certainty of putting it on. Sounds like not ritualizing looks like not checking and not smearing. Exposure sounds like anything that would trigger wanting to check. It also sounds like ruminating might be one of your compulsions. Have you ever had the chance to work with a therapist?
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@Alyosha I don't know. I'm so lost in figuring out how to apply ERP correctly to my obsessions and compulsions. I like the simple approach of "let the obsession be there & don't the compulsion". It makes sense to me. But after learning more about therapy and what's supposed to be done, I get really confused on which approach to apply to my OCD. Some people say therapy is applied to the same way no matter what the content, others say different I have been to residential treatment twice and partial hospitalization. I've worked with outpatient providers too. I'm currently on the waiting list to see a new therapist because my last one wasn't reliable with scheduling & also we didn't have a plan.
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@canigetawitness I could be wrong, but I think you’re obsessing about getting the treatment wrong. I’m curious: What’s the worst that could happen if you do ERP incorrectly? Also, is there a past therapist who knows you who would let you email them to ask for advice on this one particular question?
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If I did ERP incorrectly, I wouldn't be recovering properly. That's also a fear. At the same time, it's true though, if you aren't during ERP for your obsessions & compulsions, you aren't going to recover. So there's that fear too.
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I can try to email a past therapist. I really feel like I need to talk to someone in person/over the phone, so that's a good idea.
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@canigetawitness I hope you can find someone to contact about this. I think I remember you bringing up this question in Dr. McGrath’s QA a few weeks ago (maybe not—maybe was a different person with rinsing compulsions). It does sound to me that your OCD is trying to hijack you by getting you into “paralysis by analysis” over the treatment itself. I listened to Jon Hershfield talk about that issue but don’t remember where. If I find it, I’ll let you know.
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