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When it comes to my work, I'm hypersensitive/vigilant to making mistakes and when I get constructive criticism i initially take it well, and then spend hours or days with intrusive bad thoughts about my mistakes or what people think. I've found my belief in what people think or say about me is all determined by my reaction, and if I react in a healthy way it helps my further thought process. Hope it helps!
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I agree man, thank you for your input it is appreciated
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oh god yeah, not sure if it’s bc of my ocd but i tend to take criticism way too personally and a good reason as to why i don’t like showing what i create to people anymore is simply because i’ve grown to be scared of not only their criticism, but their reaction and what they must be thinking. so if someone responds to my work as “i like it!” i’ll overanalyse this and think “they told someone else that they loved their art, and because they only said they ‘like’ mine, it must be terrible”. i recently get horribly embarrassed when showing people what i create and scared of the criticism
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I start to believe insults and criticism and it drives me absolutely crazy! I wish I didn’t have to ruminate on things continuously ?
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Me! Currently working on not taking it personally but it’s hard!
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Yes me too!
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@ApparentlyitsOCD What are you doing to not take it personally? :)
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Yesss like how do I not take things personally
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Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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I look back at various past events in my life where I said or did things that I feel really guilty, disgusted, and ashamed about. I replay them in my head for hours. I feel anxious about crossing paths with people that I've hurt or upset in the past or who perceive me badly, to the point that I will avoid going out in public as much as possible. I go out for work, errands, appointments, and occasionally to eat (even though those all give me a lot of anxiety), but I avoid community events where people might recognize me and I tend to isolate myself. The only people I see regularly are my boyfriend, my parents, and my coworkers. I live in a small community and I'm worried about people confronting me publicly and proving what a bad person I must be.
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