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@kelce87 it’s only an obsession if it takes a lot of time from you and you deep down know you don’t feel attraction. If you can joke about it and it doesn’t create you anxiety, let me tell you that it’s not an obsession.☺️
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thank you all so much for your replies I’m so happy to know that I’m not the only one struggling with this theme of ocd
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Yaaasss do you refer to not-crushes or false ocd girl-crushes?
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false ocd crushes , do u have them too
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Sounds like pretty classic OCD
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Yesss I do have them and they have nothing of reality☺️
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Interesting question. I am married to a woman been with her for 15 years so tech “gay” but find men very attractive and even joke about it with my best friend. I have always liked people for their souls yet lately have been very attracted to men. I love my spouse dearly and it could be an obsession but not really sure. People think because I’m “gay” that I am in love w my best friend, which I find unfair. She is just someone I care about and trust dearly. I think in the aforementioned question above, sounds like ocd to me.
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When I was in my sophomore year there was this guy at first I kept looking at the guy and saying is he a girl or a guy cause he had really pale skin and long hair then it started to feel like I like the guy every time I looked at him I got worried and scared and the only thing that is freaking me out about that was one time we were in pe and I had the feeling to impress him and I was like wtf the only people I wanted to impress were girls and people I thought were better then like a basketball couch.this is how I know it was hocd because as the anxiety was going completely away I felt nothing towards the guy I wasn’t scared anymore I just looked him and said who cares I’m starting to think that you’re mind can play with your feelings and make you miss interpret them hell you can get the groinal response too.its weird how before this if I ever saw a guy I wouldn’t care I wouldn’t even if he was the most attractive guy ever I still would just look at him and not care but once they get hocd then people start saying they feel like their attracted to the same sex
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@ocd333 good point. I use humor and sarcasm a lot to try and deflect or minimize my ocd. I guess it’s a coping mechanism that has evolved over the years.
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HOCD is awful with false crushes. My brain kept buzzing and I had weird sensations throughout my body but I know I only fancy men bc of the intrusive part, I actually love and enjoy men. Hope that helped ❤️
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That’s really interesting
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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