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@kelce87 it’s only an obsession if it takes a lot of time from you and you deep down know you don’t feel attraction. If you can joke about it and it doesn’t create you anxiety, let me tell you that it’s not an obsession.☺️
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thank you all so much for your replies I’m so happy to know that I’m not the only one struggling with this theme of ocd
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Yaaasss do you refer to not-crushes or false ocd girl-crushes?
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false ocd crushes , do u have them too
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Sounds like pretty classic OCD
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Yesss I do have them and they have nothing of reality☺️
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Interesting question. I am married to a woman been with her for 15 years so tech “gay” but find men very attractive and even joke about it with my best friend. I have always liked people for their souls yet lately have been very attracted to men. I love my spouse dearly and it could be an obsession but not really sure. People think because I’m “gay” that I am in love w my best friend, which I find unfair. She is just someone I care about and trust dearly. I think in the aforementioned question above, sounds like ocd to me.
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When I was in my sophomore year there was this guy at first I kept looking at the guy and saying is he a girl or a guy cause he had really pale skin and long hair then it started to feel like I like the guy every time I looked at him I got worried and scared and the only thing that is freaking me out about that was one time we were in pe and I had the feeling to impress him and I was like wtf the only people I wanted to impress were girls and people I thought were better then like a basketball couch.this is how I know it was hocd because as the anxiety was going completely away I felt nothing towards the guy I wasn’t scared anymore I just looked him and said who cares I’m starting to think that you’re mind can play with your feelings and make you miss interpret them hell you can get the groinal response too.its weird how before this if I ever saw a guy I wouldn’t care I wouldn’t even if he was the most attractive guy ever I still would just look at him and not care but once they get hocd then people start saying they feel like their attracted to the same sex
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@ocd333 good point. I use humor and sarcasm a lot to try and deflect or minimize my ocd. I guess it’s a coping mechanism that has evolved over the years.
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HOCD is awful with false crushes. My brain kept buzzing and I had weird sensations throughout my body but I know I only fancy men bc of the intrusive part, I actually love and enjoy men. Hope that helped ❤️
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That’s really interesting
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Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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As I’ve posted before, my friends has developed TOUGH hocd and has hit rock bottom :// She told me to ask y’all here if any of you have had a similar experience NOT reassurance (she doesn’t have NOCD). “Hi NOCD community. When I was like 5 I had this distant female cousin whom I played with and grew up. She had super short hair like a boy, but we low key had same interests in toys/tv series etc. and then at THAT age I got a very weird though which said: do you like her? And I remember getting a lot of anxiety and my stomach hurting cause why tf would I have that kind of thought about my female cousin? I remember ruminating about it the whole day, and the next day that thought disappeared and I never had that thought again. We grew up and obviously she’s my family like my sister. But now that I have HOCD, I keep thinking about that memory and I have so much anxiety about it and cry often about it. While growing up I’ve only had crushes on tons of boys at school etc. has anyone had a similar experience?” Thanks for reading if u did! We need support 😭🙏🏻
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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