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The best thing to do is to distract her by speaking to her or getting her a fidget! I have a fidget cube and it certainly helps me a lot and I know how your little sister feels!
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- 6y ago
How old is she? I first noticed signs when I was 4 or 5 and had a very rough time starting at 7, diagnosed at 19. You’re a good sister, especially for looking out for signs. It’s really tough when you’re young going through it. Best thing is to not give reassurance. If you think she’s too young to understand, maybe reword things to not say why she’s feeling that way but just that distraction is helpful. Another good thing my therapist told me for my checking locks was to check once and make a clear mental note that it was definitely locked and then after that stop and resist the compulsions
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- 6y ago
Maybe telling her she just feels high anxiety and that her OCD about different things such as her dog dying etc and reassurance seeking is just her brain trying to rationalize the anxiety....but if she were to deal with anxiety, like meditate, journal, etc that that would help her. That’s what I would say; hope she gets better!
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- 6y ago
I definitely think some mindfulness exercises will help like meditation and breathing techniques. Maybe you can do them with her! Also, as hard as it may be, it’s best to try not to give reassurance like Smiley said.
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- 6y ago
Thank you for replying! These suggestions are all really helpful. I think I will try doing meditation/relaxation with her and distracting her. She is still too young to understand why she is having these thoughts but I will explain that to her over time. Luckily she has a large selection of fidgets so that is useful! I’m hoping that the paediatrician will pick up on it when she goes for ASD and ADHD diagnosis and she will get the help she needs.
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- 6y ago
@smiley She is eight now, I can’t imagine how difficult it must be for her because she has no idea why she is doing it. Thank you for the suggestion, I will help her to do that ☺️
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- 21w ago
Hey guys! So I struggle with OCD, especially harm, relationship and moral stuff and I am somewhat recovered now. However, my current girlfriend has started showing signs of OCD but it’s abou5 something I don’t know much about so I wanted to see if anyone on here had thoughts about it. She is constantly thinking about food (when to eat it, what is healthy, what is too much, what is too little) and controls the thoughts by giving in and controlling her entire day around food. She don’t really know the feeling of being full. She never starved herself and always eats, but then she feels extremely guilty afterwards. Her thoughts do have to do a lot with her body image and not gaining weight but also not losing any either. Does this sound like ocd or an eating disorder?
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Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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When I was a child, before I knew this was OCD, I struggled with constant "magical thinking" compulsions (don't step on the crack or mom's back will actually break, etc). When I later learned this was OCD, it almost immediately solved it. Any time I got a magical thought, I would say to myself "that's just an OCD thought. ignore it." and it just stopped coming! Like seriously it fixed the magical thinking stuff forever. But of course the OCD has resurfaced in other ways. So naturally, I've tried to use the same strategy since I had so much success with it previously. But I wonder sometimes if telling myself "that's just OCD" is almost functioning as a reassurance compulsion? I hate how meta this gets. For example, I have ROCD that comes and goes. So sometimes I'll get a thought like "what if i'm still in love with my ex?" and then I'll tell myself "that's obviously just an ROCD thought" and will feel relief, almost like reassurance. But it comes back. So is telling myself that it's OCD a reassurance compulsion ?? It's just so weird because it worked so perfectly as a kid with the magical thinking thing.
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