Hello. It's been two years since I lost my aesthetic attraction to women almost entirely (let's say 90%). My psychiatrist tells me that it will come back as it was before, I read testimonies, talked with people who said the same thing. I'm not really afraid that it won't come back like before, I almost don't test myself anymore (in two weeks, it must have happened twice on an actress I thought was beautiful, and no aesthetic attraction came back, I found her ugly :c). I guess nothing comes back because I'm under some kind of pressure? After all I want it to come back as before...  I'm not thinking consciously about the loss of aesthetic attraction, but I know I'm thinking about it in the same time I do something. I'm not afraid anymore of turning gay, I know it's not the case. My question are these: How do you get rid of that pressure? How do you take the pressure off? I want my life back, my life where I could spend days looking at girls and finding them pretty... I miss it so much.

Yeah, sorry it was me. I just search a solution.

@AnonBaguette What suggestions did you receive last time?

@NOCD Advocate - Katie I didn't received suggestion last time.

@AnonBaguette I remember giving some. ..

@NOCD Advocate - Katie You said to me: "Perhaps OCD has magnified the importance of sexuality and minimized the importance of other aspects of your identity. It's an unsettling change. I can see why you're concerned. However, I don't think it's as life shattering as OCD insists. What other parts of your identity matter to you? What else do you enjoy?" And said hyperfocus wasn't a good thing (when I ask how to get rid of that pressure, so by extension stop my hyperfocus (it's that which pressure myself) to get back my attraction) and tell that attraction wasn't really important.

@AnonBaguette @AnonBaguette My bad, I didn't ask the question about how to get rid pressure off in my previous post(I was persuaded I did talk about it, sorry)

@AnonBaguette I misremembered too. From my perspective, focusing on other aspects of your identity WAS my advice

@NOCD Advocate - Katie It's not even a problem about identiy at this stade, it's just I enjoy looking at women and finding them beautiful and since two years it's not possible anymore, I can't be in relationship, I can look women... The rare things who bring happiness in my life..

@Pure_O_Warrior Sexuality is an important part of identity. I agree with that. However, it is not the ONLY or MOST important part of identity. All forms of OCD shatter lives. Part of how that happens is that we magnify the importance of the OCD content and minimize the importance of everything else. This means that most people with OCD about sexuality attribute much too much importance to their sexual identity. It's similar to the way people with eating disorders attribute much too much importance to their body image. Body image matters, but it isn't the only or most important part of identity. Effective treatment for eating disorders requires nurturing other parts of their identity. Effective treatment for OCD with sexuality obsessions requires nurturing non sexuality parts if identity. Effective treatment for OCD about career, school, or relationships requires nurturing identity outside of career, school, or relationships

@NOCD Advocate - Katie To be honnest, it's almost not even related at this point...