so i need advice! i’m worried about my losing my boyfriend he’s been so supportive and loving of me. the theme of misgendering him. he’s trans this thought has come back and i know i never would but it feels like it’s trying to get deeper than before. i see him for him a boy. of course. i’ve never had problems with this before and i know it’s not of me but it’s scaring me ): i don’t want to fall into this or become intolerant the thought makes me want to throw up. i don’t know what to do ): what would you do in this situation ): ride out the feeling or distance yourself. i know i don’t want to lose him ): i’m just so scared right now

thank you for the advice ): it’s just so hard because i get scared of falling into this and losing him. i never had this issue before and i also think this thought formed because of growing up in a religious household ): it’s terrible but thank you for believing in me. i really don’t want to give up

@getwellsoon aw yeah I get it!! I had the same thoughts since I grew up in a religious household aswell and had a trans best friend, I had tons of panic attacks because of it because I thought I actually thought those stuff so I def know what you’re going through, it’s really hard but you’ll get through this I believe in you!

@saltedcrabs i’m guessing it eventually got easier. but this made me feel a little bit better so thank you

thank you for the recommendation. I think i’ll give it a look. and it is ): even triggered me a bit because i’m scared of becoming intolerant like that. imagine being so stuck in your own ways. the thought breaks my heart and makes me sick

@getwellsoon You know you aren’t though❤️ I get the same fears about betraying my husband or hurting him. We love them and that’s why ocd wants to attack it. Don’t worry. You’re in love and lucky to have found someone. Enjoy it❤️

@wellwellwell i know it’s just hard ): these stupid thoughts keep trying to contradict everything about me ): i know it’s not me because i never had an issue with this before and we’ve been dating for more than 10 months and i know i love him more than anything but at the same time these thoughts make me feel like i should protect him and distance myself it’s hard but i’m trying so hard to act like me )): thank you for your positivity

@getwellsoon You’re going to get through it I promise!! Don’t let ocd take away someone you love

A cis gender person is someone who identifies with their biological gender and she said she's cis gender. She's in a relationship with a "female to male" trans person, so the relationship is a guy and a girl together.

@hateocd123 OK. But if the trans person, in this situation, identified as cisgender as well, would the relationship be female to female?

@hateocd123 thank you for explaining it so easily

@Fear Strikes Out I guess if they did identify as female, then yes.

@Fear Strikes Out no he’s ftm... therefore he identifies as male

@getwellsoon OK, I think that I understand now. Thanks! ?

Brit Bennett!

@wellwellwell thank you ?