I have a problem. A while ago, I suffered from real event OCD. I always had the urge to tell my boyfriend everything or I felt guilty and like a liar. Then one day I took photos with his camera and out of curiosity started to read a few of his dms and whatsapp chats. I couldn't stop, but it was mere curiosity (not good, I know). I suffered really bad about it, I didn't knew whether I should tell him or just not do it again and I felt incredibly worthless and guilty and depressed. After five days, I spoke to my therapist, which I had for only a month or so and she told me that if you do something wrong, you have to apologize for it. So I confessed to my boyfriend. While doing so, I had the urge to confess it right, every detail, and I also added everything I ever did which was similar, like accidentally looking at his amazon purchase history etc. I fear that my therapist accidentally advised me to do a compulsion. This impacts my whole recovery, my real event ocd got worse and every time I try to let it go and accept it as OCD, This incident pops up when I thought it was OCD but it wasn't, according to my therapist.

I think you do, your therapist shouldn't say that to you.

@sunflowers ^^^ yeah, I’m not an expert or anything but this sounds like ocd to me too

yeah I definitely think she made you do a compulsion then :(

Is the therapist an OCD therapist? It really does not sound like it.

@Fear Strikes Out How did your BF respond?

@Fear Strikes Out I asked her if she had clients with ocd but she repeatedly said things that I found quite odd, like she said it could not be ocd because ocd is always about something happening in the future. But contamination fear or real event ocd always center around something you did in the past

@SoMi1907 She does not sound like a therapist trained in treating OCD. Does she use ERP? That should be the primary therapy treatment that she is using with you.

@SoMi1907 And she said that I just had to let the thoughts go. Which was the stupidest thing i heard

@Fear Strikes Out The first question that anyone who suspects they might have OCD to ask a therapist is, "Do you use ERP as the primary mode of treatment?" If they say they no or "What is ERP?," then it's time to hang up the phone or leave the session.

@Fear Strikes Out He was totally pissed. It really bothered him, which made me feel like it was the right thing to confess. But now...

@SoMi1907 Well, we all get thousands of thoughts each day. For the intrusive or unwanted thoughts that are creating unusually high anxiety for us, we sometimes do need to accept the uncertainty of our fears and let them go without trying to figure them out or overanalyzing them obsessively. That's where mindfulness techniques can be really helpful. Did she suggest how you might let the thoughts go while experiencing the anxiety that can come along with it?

@SoMi1907 I would find another therapist that understands OCD really well.

@Fear Strikes Out Yeah, it is difficult. She told me that with pure ocd, erp doesn't work.

@SoMi1907 What a big lie, erp works for OCD.

@SoMi1907 That is blatantly not true. I recommend finding a therapist who uses ERP for any theme of OCD,including Pure-O.

@SoMi1907 My old therapist told me to imagine a stop sign everytime I had an intrusive thought. ? If it was that easy I would have been cured forever ago.

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