Can I be turned on by women more than men in erotica(and like naked women, I.e. breasts) and still be attracted to men/be okay with my husband?? I cannot let this go. I know this teeters on reassurance but I just got out of surgery and I’m trying to get better but this is ruining me.

Dr. McGrath says: If you receive reassurance to alleviate the discomfort caused by the obsession, then you never learn that you can handle the obsession without getting the reassurance, and the OCD is maintained and even strengthened.

OCD will have you “test” yourself to see if your “possibly” bisexual. Your running that storyline and ocd is the organ grinder playing the tune.

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Focus on managing the ocd. Don’t focus on the contents of the ocd intrusive thoughts. You have experience dealing with other themes and this process is no different. OCD is like a chameleon that changes colors. 🦎🦎🦎

No..No..No... you keep asking this question. You are assurance seeking and asking “what if’s”. (ie. What if this is all insane denial).

Dr. Feusner says: You have to understand the ocd illness. It’s not so much about the content of your thoughts, even though it feels like it’s about the contents, the problem with ocd is the process. It’s the process of having obsessive thoughts or having a feeling that’s intrusive and doing some type of behavior to feel better.

You have ocd you cannot seek assurance from someone else who has a different viewpoint or preference and it as a basis for your ocd obsessions/compulsions.

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. I was in a similar place a few years ago. At that time, I was spending literally hours on google and Reddit every day looking for answers. Those are compulsions and will not give you any long term relief. One thing that helped me in the beginning was to take breaks from all the online forums and researching. I took that time to read some of my favorite books and walk my dog which helped give my mind a bit of a break, though it still felt like my brain/thoughts were so loud. I hope you are planning on talking to a therapist about this. I also hope you talk to your doctor about whether medication would help. I needed meds at the beginning because I could not function - I was not getting enough food or sleep to continue on much longer.

Ocd will run tests and template matches to try to prove or disprove the thoughts.

Sexuality isn’t so black and white. It’s more of a grey area. And that’s ok!

True but sexuality isn’t related to intrusive thoughts.

True. But it may help you feel a little less stressed to not have to label everything. You can be attracted to a female naked body and still be happy with your husband.

I mean just because you have an intrusive thought about your sexuality doesn’t make it so.

Yeah but her question was can she be turned on by women but still be okay with her husband.

Women are very visually appealing beings.

I think she is asking those questions because of the physical sensations of arousal while viewing erotica before she had ocd. She states that she is not physically aroused or attracted by other women.

I go back to my original statement: “sexuality isn’t related to intrusive thoughts”.

In ocd it’s called “avoidance” behaviors.

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I don’t see her mention anything about intrusive thoughts in her original post