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I feel the same way with my husband. We have two beautiful children but I feel he always has to deal with me and my mental problems. He is very supportive. I'm so lucky.
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You shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty for cry, it's actually an amazing thing to do when we can't deal with our emotions
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i personally wouldn’t feel shame, id feel relieved for having such a supportive partner in a time of need :)
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that seems to be a healthy perspective to have & i hope to work towards that 🤍
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You’re not alone! I feel that exact way with my boyfriend bc I’ve been leaning on him a lot in the same way (crying, stressing over my ocd thoughts etc), and I feel bad he has to deal with that and I can’t just be “alright” for him. But you just have to remember they love you and care about and that’s why they do it! If the roles were reversed, just remember we’d do the same! And often, bc were so ashamed and worried about being too much, it probably means we aren’t asking for as much as we think we are (aka overestimating our burden )
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I have never really told my husband that I suffer with OCD. I dont think he will understand. He is vietnamese and i am south african. There is a bit of a language barrier aswell. Plus mental health problems are not so spoken about in their culture. But he does deal with my bad moods and when I cant get out of bed. I wish I could tell him but I am too embarrassed. I feel like he has dealt with so much already. Laying it on him that I'm mentally ill, I dont know if I can do that to him.
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I had to do a new exposure with my therapist two weeks ago involving my boyfriend where I had to share some of my intrusive thoughts and I know that it hurt him to hear some of them I could see it in his eyes and now I’m terrified he’s going to leave me my ocd isn’t the worst it’s ever been but it’s now the worst it’s been in a while and I’m back to doing one of the compulsions I had completely stopped and now idk what to do. I feel like I’m in this never ending cycle of doing really bad then doing really good. I just want my ocd gone I want to be normal again and not obsess ever my relation anymore. Sorry for the rant I’m just exhausted from my ocd and feel super depressed and I think it’s from my ocd. I just feel like I’m spiraling
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Has anyone else experienced something like this? I’m graduating from college soon and i have been so stressed about finding a job, signing a lease for an apartment, college ending, I have an ungodly amount of assignments to do, I have a tumultuous relationship with my mother that has recently blown up again, and so much more. I am just so overwhelmed, I snapped at my boyfriend last night. I immediately apologized but i still feel awful. One of my biggest fears is being an abusive partner and i feel like this confirms that I am one. My best friend was also there and he saw me snap at my boyfriend and I’m scared he thinks I’m awful too. He saw me apologize so maybe that makes him think differently, but i can’t know for sure. The logical side of me tells me it’s not that deep, i apologized, and it’s time to move on. But i feel like i need to apologize to my best friend too to make sure he doesn’t think im terrible, but i know thats reassurance seeking. The ocd in me is punishing myself and refusing to move on.
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I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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