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I feel the same way with my husband. We have two beautiful children but I feel he always has to deal with me and my mental problems. He is very supportive. I'm so lucky.
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You shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty for cry, it's actually an amazing thing to do when we can't deal with our emotions
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i personally wouldn’t feel shame, id feel relieved for having such a supportive partner in a time of need :)
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that seems to be a healthy perspective to have & i hope to work towards that 🤍
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You’re not alone! I feel that exact way with my boyfriend bc I’ve been leaning on him a lot in the same way (crying, stressing over my ocd thoughts etc), and I feel bad he has to deal with that and I can’t just be “alright” for him. But you just have to remember they love you and care about and that’s why they do it! If the roles were reversed, just remember we’d do the same! And often, bc were so ashamed and worried about being too much, it probably means we aren’t asking for as much as we think we are (aka overestimating our burden )
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I have never really told my husband that I suffer with OCD. I dont think he will understand. He is vietnamese and i am south african. There is a bit of a language barrier aswell. Plus mental health problems are not so spoken about in their culture. But he does deal with my bad moods and when I cant get out of bed. I wish I could tell him but I am too embarrassed. I feel like he has dealt with so much already. Laying it on him that I'm mentally ill, I dont know if I can do that to him.
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Tmi warning I was being intimate with my bf and I kept getting the name of someone else pop up, but I didn’t feel anxious. Afterwards, as much as I tried to delay confessing, I couldn’t help it. I confessed. My bf was fine he said I probably didn’t feel anxious because I’ve gotten used to the anxiety and it’s okay, it doesn’t define me any more than it would if I was anxious. A few minutes later, he got upset and said that the confession kinda ruined a blissful moment. I’m so upset that my head feels so turbulent I didn’t even notice it was a blissful moment for him and could’ve been for me. I feel so awful. I haven’t slept in a day, I can’t stop crying. My bf is afraid that because this specific name keeps popping up, it might mean something and he feels less than sometimes because of it. I know I shouldn’t have confessed but I felt so safe that it was like a dam broke loose. I feel so awful. What’s worse is that I’m still scared it means something, I’m scared that my boyfriend’s fear is right. He’s very understanding of OCD and how it manifests in me and everything, I think I just kinda messed up a sacred moment and I feel so much guilt and confusion and just horrendous. I’m not even fully anxious. I don’t know what to do. I apologized a lot but I feel like I don’t deserve him and so selfish
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I told my boyfriend about the thoughts that ive cheated and don’t remember and someone will expose me. He was very understanding. He let me know that he sometimes got those thoughts but not as severe as mine. He said when im having those thoughts to tell him and he’d reassure me and wouldn’t think any deeper, knowing my mind is just playing tricks on me. He knows that i have bipolar and bpd. Hes only experienced a minor manic episode ive had and he knows that ive gone into psychosis before and had bouts of awful paranoia. He reassured me that he knows that isn’t me. that any action i might take wouldnt be taken as my true self. Of course this doesn’t absolve me of being awful in episodes but reassuring me that he knows i have severe mental illness and he still loves me knowing that there will be very rough parts.
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Has anyone else experienced something like this? I’m graduating from college soon and i have been so stressed about finding a job, signing a lease for an apartment, college ending, I have an ungodly amount of assignments to do, I have a tumultuous relationship with my mother that has recently blown up again, and so much more. I am just so overwhelmed, I snapped at my boyfriend last night. I immediately apologized but i still feel awful. One of my biggest fears is being an abusive partner and i feel like this confirms that I am one. My best friend was also there and he saw me snap at my boyfriend and I’m scared he thinks I’m awful too. He saw me apologize so maybe that makes him think differently, but i can’t know for sure. The logical side of me tells me it’s not that deep, i apologized, and it’s time to move on. But i feel like i need to apologize to my best friend too to make sure he doesn’t think im terrible, but i know thats reassurance seeking. The ocd in me is punishing myself and refusing to move on.
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