Question and I am not sure if I made it clear in a previous post. But I can easily see a new thought of what if I cheated on my wife and blocked it out. Now my wife knows about my ocd. Now that I know how to handle these - is it a compulsion to tell my wife that I’m having a new theme attach itself to me? I want to know whether or not I need to be open about it.

Right and I’ve definitely done my fair share of things I feel guilty about like overload guilt of. And I think this was just like my brain trying to be like, well you have to make sure you didn’t do THIS and then boom it started scanning lol.

Yes totally and the small stuff I did do I seem to exaggerate and honestly I don’t even like I was in my right head space this was before I was officially diagnosed. So it’s like a veil has been lifted up over my eyes. But it is like where is the line? I feel like if I confess small things my brain will implode and I’ll confess EVERYTHING and things that aren’t real lol

Yeah I think best option is to just sit with the uncertainty even thought it was never an uncertain thing before lol and try to follow my values

I don't think you have to tell your wife about your new theme. Just let it go. I told my husband I have OCD but never went into details about my themes. I don't want my husband to ever provide me with reassurance.

Well too late lol. It was a pretty big exposure but maybe I’ll take the other approach.

Now thinking on it, it may be less selfish to let her have her peace of mind you know?

Rather than letting her see my chaotic brain sometimes lol

Yes, it’s certainly a cycle. I am just super annoyed at it. It’s a pain the butt.