Underthestars
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Carl CornettCarl Cornett
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I don’t have relationship OCD, but I am in a relationship and have other themes. Yes, I do feel secure in my relationship.
UnderthestarsUnderthestars
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I dont have relationship OCD either, but lately I've been feeling really insecure in our relationship. I guess I just feel like he deserves better.
Carl CornettCarl Cornett
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@Underthestars Our minds make up all sorts of stories about who we are, what we want, what our perceived values are. Sometimes these are influenced by environmental factors, sometimes biology, and maybe social trends or cultural norms. Many times, they’re mostly nonsense. I’m not saying that it’s not good to be reflective and try to learn/grow over time. But the chatter in our heads isn’t something we always have to take seriously.
UnderthestarsUnderthestars
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@NOCD Advocate - Carl Cornett I guess it's just hard to feel that way through everything I go through.
Carl CornettCarl Cornett
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@Underthestars Sure. It’s not something that comes as organically as the way we’ve been processing our thoughts for most of our lives. But it is something we can learn more about and grow into. I’ve had a lifetime of just listening to whatever my brain was telling me. Now I’ve learned that we don’t always have to pay attention to it and can choose to focus it elsewhere. Even if that’s very challenging and hard initially.
screwuOCDscrewuOCD
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My husband and I have been married 2 years and together 5. My ROCD has always been there as I have been mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually abused from various past relationships. My ROCD causes HOCD and fear of denial and it can be very very hard and very exhausting. But I will say I am blessed to have my husband. When I am crumbling he picks me up piece by piece and glues me back together. All while holding me accountable. It by no means is easy, but it makes each day more worth it.
UnderthestarsUnderthestars
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You're very lucky to have him.
AnonymousVAnonymousV
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The same with me. My husband is my rock.
sarah2020sarah2020
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This sounds familiar. My husband and I have been together... ten years? For many years I drank to deal with the traumas. Now I am sober and getting to the root of my issues. It’s not easy! I don’t worry about the relationship as much as I did in the early days. I worry more about things that happened fifteen years ago, or that I’m going to be fired.
rosebriar99rosebriar99
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Meeeeee! It’s difficult but with the right person worth it. I feel like I tend to compulsively find reasons why things aren’t going to work or seriously fixate on flaws but I mean otherwise I feel pretty secure. It’s really painful for me personally
UnderthestarsUnderthestars
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Same for me too. Its been difficult lately unfortunately. :(
Meof3Meof3
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I have been happily married for 8 years. When I have a bad ocd day I often tell my husband that he deserves better. In response to that he said I am the best thing that has happened to him. Noone is perfect. What is important is that I am working hard to improve my OCD. 🙂 He is a wonderful guy much better than I ever deserve.
UnderthestarsUnderthestars
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At least you're making an effort towards it. I havent done much for my OCD. It comes and goes. But right now its awful. I guess I am just not ready to talk about it. I've tried before and didn't have much luck with treatment. But it seems there are more people that specialize in it than there was 9 years ago.
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