I’m wondering what sort of upbringings you all had and if you think that effected your chances of developing OCD? I was brought up as an only child by my mother. She loved me but she had could have a bad temper and had issues being tolerant with me. I’d say you could call it emotional disregulation disorder. It means she would end up screaming and screeching at me for small things like forgetting to wash up as a 13 year old child - screaming at me and calling me a words like a bitch and a cow... I guess this would happen atleast once a week. And more minor stuff happening more often. As an adult I realise her behaviour was not acceptable at all. It was emotional abuse. I’ve come to the realisation that this constant over critical reaction to me could have caused me to become more of an anxious, self critical, over thinking adult. It makes sense that if your constantly being screamed at that you might end of ruminating over whether your a ‘bad person’. Which is basically the root of OCD... I know my mum has her own problems, and truly she loves me... but I can’t help thinking - fuck you have no idea what I’m dealing with now...

I was brought up by my dad my mum abandoned me and my brother and signed full custody over to him. Which made me very dependent on my dad to feel safe and I still feel that way to some extent as an adult which definitely triggered mine I would say. My first bad period of ocd was 12 and I was in recovery for ten years and then my dad became critically ill which he is now recovered but it was touch and go and that triggered me back off ever since and that was two year ago

honestly, i’ve had a relatively great childhood. my mom and dad love me and listen to me, are accepting and kind, didnt hit me or abuse me- i feel so guilty for being like this, like i shouldn’t worry about stuff bc i know i would be accepted and loved, and i feel like since my life is good i need to appreciate it more instead of worrying so much. i also worry that it isn’t ocd because i’ve hears a lot of ppl w ocd have had emotional trauma, and i haven’t (in no way am i saying that i wish i had trauma, or that trauma is good). i’m sorry you had to deal with that, btw. that sounds really hard and i feel for you <3

Yeah I got a lot of the same emotional abuse, lots of shaming, criticism, pretty much total emotional neglect.

**TW suicide mentioned** I had a pretty chaotic childhood I guess. Parents divorced when I was a baby. Constant fighting and custody wars, paranoia and parents trying to turn us (sister and I) against the other parent , accusations flying everywhere. We moved 14 times in my first 13 years of life, were homeless a few times and sister and I ended up in foster care for a brief period twice. Strangely, I think I got a lot of my obsessions from things my mom accused my dad of. Others from things my dad said to me (accusing me of lying and faking all my emotions, being manipulative, cold and selfish). And I think I got one of my most insidious and constant obsessions, a fear of spiraling out of control or losing my mind, from watching my mom's spiral into mental illness that culminated in her s*icide when I was 10. So yeah I think it definitely affected my OCD.