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- 4y ago
I was brought up by my dad my mum abandoned me and my brother and signed full custody over to him. Which made me very dependent on my dad to feel safe and I still feel that way to some extent as an adult which definitely triggered mine I would say. My first bad period of ocd was 12 and I was in recovery for ten years and then my dad became critically ill which he is now recovered but it was touch and go and that triggered me back off ever since and that was two year ago
honestly, i’ve had a relatively great childhood. my mom and dad love me and listen to me, are accepting and kind, didnt hit me or abuse me- i feel so guilty for being like this, like i shouldn’t worry about stuff bc i know i would be accepted and loved, and i feel like since my life is good i need to appreciate it more instead of worrying so much. i also worry that it isn’t ocd because i’ve hears a lot of ppl w ocd have had emotional trauma, and i haven’t (in no way am i saying that i wish i had trauma, or that trauma is good). i’m sorry you had to deal with that, btw. that sounds really hard and i feel for you <3
Yeah I got a lot of the same emotional abuse, lots of shaming, criticism, pretty much total emotional neglect.
**TW suicide mentioned** I had a pretty chaotic childhood I guess. Parents divorced when I was a baby. Constant fighting and custody wars, paranoia and parents trying to turn us (sister and I) against the other parent , accusations flying everywhere. We moved 14 times in my first 13 years of life, were homeless a few times and sister and I ended up in foster care for a brief period twice. Strangely, I think I got a lot of my obsessions from things my mom accused my dad of. Others from things my dad said to me (accusing me of lying and faking all my emotions, being manipulative, cold and selfish). And I think I got one of my most insidious and constant obsessions, a fear of spiraling out of control or losing my mind, from watching my mom's spiral into mental illness that culminated in her s*icide when I was 10. So yeah I think it definitely affected my OCD.
Hey your dad and my mum must share an astrological sign or smt, I got to hear all those lovely things!
I’m new here and need help, not as someone who suffers from OCD, but as a mother who’s child (I believe) suffers from OCD. We have not had an official diagnosis yet as I am searching for a physician at this time. She has all of the aspects on the subject specifically, so I really wouldn’t be surprised by an OCD diagnosis at all. My question is, do any of you remember a time when the OCD became a problem for you? I meant, did something happen to trigger it or make it much worse or more evident? I’ve always known she was a “perfectionist” and very intellectually minded, so to speak, but several incidents happened last year (she’s almost 14) with some friends that didn’t end well. Since then, it’s as if she can’t focus at all and gets very obsessed by things. Almost like the incidents last year exacerbated the underlying problem. I want to help her however I can until we can get into a Dr, I just don’t know how and it seems she gets mad and irritated with me when I try, which is hurting this Moms heart. Can any of you suggest what I should or shouldn’t do at this point? She literally becomes frozen with certain fears, like being stung by a bee (never been stung before). Honestly, she’s had a fear of going to the bathroom forever (10 years), but medical Drs have never been able to help and now I know why. So, all to say, I’m not in denial but just want to help her. Thanks for any input you can give.
So I know a lot of people search for the cause of OCD so to speak. And while no known direct cause is really scientifically stated and it just seems to be a huge puzzle right now (like the human brain in general honestly), I'd like to talk about where I think my OCD roots from. I'm unsure why I'm posting this, writing my thoughts off probably. I digress, I think for me it started actually after getting bullied/isolated at school. I don't hear people on this app talking about this a lot but I bet a lot of us have been bullied/ignored/isolated before. I've read in a study before that the odds of developing OCD after bullying is from what I can recall 10 times more likely (I think it was even more). It was a higher odds than with depression, which shocked me at first because everyone knows that bullying can onset and that it increases the chance for that depression. But then I gave it a thought. The bullying made me become more perfectionistic, making me feel like I couldn't do anything right, lose self confidence, doubt myself a lot, etc. Perfect recipe for OCD, it sounds like. If anyone's interested I'll post below what my experiences at school were, but honestly I am more interested if many of you guys also went through something similiar.
Do your parents have OCD too? My mother definitely has it, and some themes I got from her. It’s brutal to have soocd since childhood, I never had those years when I could just live and love... Every crush, every feeling, sensation, glance and thought were always either for or against this theme. I don’t have this good times to go back to, all my relationships were a bit positioned by this doubt. I can’t help but blame my mom who was herself obsessing about her and my sexuality and knew no better than actually telling me all that crazy stuff...
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