I eat boys
- Date posted
- 6y
ilujiluj
- Date posted
- 6y
So true. My dad has always told me... “no one complicates your life. Only you allow it to be complicated.” Easier said than practiced.
DianaaaDianaaa
- Date posted
- 6y
That’s still obsessing. I know it’s hard to step out of but very possible. We all lose things. I lost my engagement gift and COUNTLESS other things, we all make mistakes. We all lose things. “But mine is worse than other people’s—-“ nope! That is just anxiety and ocd talking. Obsessing will make you lose something far more valuable - time.
DianaaaDianaaa
- Date posted
- 6y
It’s not shifting fear, it’s knowing it’s not real, it’s COMPLETELY MADE UP. I have had severe ocd and it was always just irrational fear that I made up in my head. You still are giving into the fear, you aren’t stepping out of it. It will take a while to repave those new, relaxing neural pathways but it is ALWAYS possible. You can’t win stuck inside of the ocd, you always have to step out of your obsession to beat it. Always.
Crazy.Cat.LadyCrazy.Cat.Lady
- Date posted
- 6y
But it’s hard not to when it’s based on the past. :(
I eat boysI eat boys
- Date posted
- 6y
@crazy.cat.lady what do you mean?
Crazy.Cat.LadyCrazy.Cat.Lady
- Date posted
- 6y
I wasn’t careful, I was irresponsible and afraid I’m going to repeat the mistakes because you have to learn from them to do better. So for example, I didn’t check enough and lost a lot of things, like my sentimental items given to me by my late parents and grandparents, my phone with my designs and ideas were stolen and a semester’s worth of my art project completely wiped out the night before my presentation. This led me to my checking compulsions. What if I’m not careful enough and get rid of something I need by accident. What if I’m not mindful enough. What if it happens again? It’s already painful and still healing from my loss of my pets and parents and grandparents, losing things they have given me is salt poured on an open wound.
Crazy.Cat.LadyCrazy.Cat.Lady
- Date posted
- 6y
I know I’m losing time which is far more valuable, I agree, but for some reason I can’t shift my fear of losing things to fear of losing time. If that makes sense. I never thought my problems are worse than other people, so if I came off like that I apologize. I hope I didn’t offend anyone.
garden garden
- Date posted
- 6y
Toooooo true
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Exactly!!!!!!!!!
DianaaaDianaaa
- Date posted
- 6y
Oh my god I love you @iluji That is so amazing!!!
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Anonymous
- Date posted
- 20w
Anyone else struggle with “maybe, maybe not”?
I know the solution is to always say “yeah that could be true, but I am choosing to live my life anyway.” However, I feel like my biggest issue is my brain always assuming that it is immediately true when I do that. Like if I say “maybe I’m attracted to teenagers, it’s possible,” then my brain INSTANTLY starts rationalizing that thought and defending it and being like “oh okay so you think this now and it makes sense because xyz, and now that’s who you are and your real desire is now and always will be teenagers.” I feel really alone in this area of feeling like my brain “accepting the thoughts” means my brain immediately accepts them as true. I obviously don’t want to think they’re true but I feel so stuck now.
God’s Love
- Date posted
- 19w
Question
Please how can an intrusive thought be distinguished from our own thoughts ?
slippery_salad
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 8w
The common thing I see amongst all posts…
You’re all ruminating!!! My therapist put it best when I told him, “rumination is my biggest compulsion.” He replied, “rumination is the overarching compulsion, every other one falls under it.” The real muscle you’re trying to train when it comes to uncertainty is the ability to stop ruminating. Rumination isn’t the same as regular thinking, it’s thinking with your will behind it. Your mind will naturally wander and generate thoughts, like clouds drifting across the sky, but ruminating is like grabbing a cloud and trying to squeeze rain out of it. That’s not natural thinking anymore, that’s you forcing the process. And here’s the part people struggle to believe: ruminating is a choice. You can choose not to chase every thought. The key is refusing to treat a thought as gospel truth. Instead, leave it where it is, neutral, just another car passing on the freeway. If you stop running into traffic and just let them drive by, the road gets clearer. The more you practice this, the stronger your “uncertainty muscle” becomes. At first it feels painful, like going to the gym after years of inactivity. But over time, the soreness turns into strength, and what used to weigh you down becomes easier to carry, or not carry at all.
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