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So true. My dad has always told me... “no one complicates your life. Only you allow it to be complicated.” Easier said than practiced.
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That’s still obsessing. I know it’s hard to step out of but very possible. We all lose things. I lost my engagement gift and COUNTLESS other things, we all make mistakes. We all lose things. “But mine is worse than other people’s—-“ nope! That is just anxiety and ocd talking. Obsessing will make you lose something far more valuable - time.
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It’s not shifting fear, it’s knowing it’s not real, it’s COMPLETELY MADE UP. I have had severe ocd and it was always just irrational fear that I made up in my head. You still are giving into the fear, you aren’t stepping out of it. It will take a while to repave those new, relaxing neural pathways but it is ALWAYS possible. You can’t win stuck inside of the ocd, you always have to step out of your obsession to beat it. Always.
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But it’s hard not to when it’s based on the past. :(
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@crazy.cat.lady what do you mean?
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I wasn’t careful, I was irresponsible and afraid I’m going to repeat the mistakes because you have to learn from them to do better. So for example, I didn’t check enough and lost a lot of things, like my sentimental items given to me by my late parents and grandparents, my phone with my designs and ideas were stolen and a semester’s worth of my art project completely wiped out the night before my presentation. This led me to my checking compulsions. What if I’m not careful enough and get rid of something I need by accident. What if I’m not mindful enough. What if it happens again? It’s already painful and still healing from my loss of my pets and parents and grandparents, losing things they have given me is salt poured on an open wound.
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I know I’m losing time which is far more valuable, I agree, but for some reason I can’t shift my fear of losing things to fear of losing time. If that makes sense. I never thought my problems are worse than other people, so if I came off like that I apologize. I hope I didn’t offend anyone.
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Toooooo true
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Exactly!!!!!!!!!
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Oh my god I love you @iluji That is so amazing!!!
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I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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There’s something that happens that keeps me stuck in a thought, it’s when I can see some part of myself agreeing with or relating to it in some way. That’s when the doubt creeps in. If I can understand *why* the thought is there, doesn’t that mean it’s not just random? Doesn’t that mean it actually reflects something about me? For example **(TMI/TW)**: I had the thought, *“I wonder what other people’s kinks are (including friends, family, even teenagers).”* And then I caught myself thinking, *“Well, I guess that could be interesting information… maybe I wouldn’t even stop someone from sharing it with me. Does that mean I actually want to know? Wait—does that make me perverted or incestuous for even having this curiosity?”* The same thing has happened with other thoughts, like wondering what someone’s privates might look like. I recognize that, on some level, that could be interesting—but does that mean the thought is truly mine? Maybe the answer is super obvious and I just can’t see through my OCD smoke. This was a bit embarrassing for me to write 🥲, but can anyone provide some insight?
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I find that the intrusive thoughts that hurt me the most are the quiet ones. The ones that, at a glance, can be hard to differentiate from your own thoughts. The louder thoughts are easy to diffuse, to say "maybe, maybe not" to but the quiet ones leave me ruminating for hours trying to figure out if they're mine or OCD's. They leave me feeling disconnected from those around me and even from myself. I can go from happily thinking about marrying my boyfriend in the future to feeling like I have never actually loved him in a matter of minutes all because a thought was a whisper rather than a scream. This is my first post and I'm not sure what I'm looking for in making it. Advice? To know I'm not alone? I guess if there's anything you feel the need to share I'd love to hear it.
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