I feel like I have so much wisdom to share after these past 3 years of struggle and transformation, but I don’t have anyone to share this with. I promised myself after I recover from ocd, I would help people in their healing, but now I’ve decided I want to do that now instead of waiting since that time may not be any time soon. Anyone want my snap. Don’t have many friends who understand. Maybe we can help each other.

Also curious

Do you have snapchat?

It’s the feeling that I must do something about this, mostly a mere thought which I combat with compulsions in my head. I also go through pure o as well. For example, I get a thought that I breathed wrong and that means I made a mistake, which then leads me to feel like a loser because I can’t get the most basic of human functionality right. Another one is saying something I think that hurt someone else’s feelings. I would replay this in my head over and over blaming myself for thinking how could I hurt that persons feelings and I wish I could’ve said something better. It has a lot to do with catastrophizing and black or white thinking. What helps me daily is by reminding myself that perfection is TRULY an illusion and everything in life falls within a grey area. The more you try to figure it out the more resistance you feel because you are trying desperately to make something you deem “right” when it’s really in the past now. There is only the present moment to bare

@qk I can absolutely relate to the hurting someone’s feelings and OCD getting involved. That’s a big one for me. Trying to figure out if I messed up somehow. It’s tricky because that one can look to others like just being a good person but for me, it goes beyond that.

@Missy Yeah. It has to do with perfectionism, and being a “people pleaser.” I am still researching the root causes for these as I believe this and ocd are from the same root of low self esteem. I’m sure you’ve heard somewhere that people are too busy wrapped around there own feelings to really care negatively about what you say, and this is true. There is this law in the world called the law of mirroring. It’s a fundamental principle to our world like the law of gravity. Even if you think you may have offended someone, it’s never you personally that caused them to be offended, but themselves. This works vice versa, since the inside of us translates to our outside reality. By seeing the world this way I put aside more often of the feelings of me saying the “right” things or not since it is then that decides how my words make them feel.