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This is called homosexual OCD, a lot of people have this on the app. When I was in highschool I thought I was gay and I freaked fir months. You should look it up. Understanding your OCD is this first step in getting better in my opinion :).
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I have been in a incredible relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years I recently asked her to marry me. I have had these thoughts all my life if it’s not sexuality thoughts then its relationship thoughts of it’s not that then it’s harm if not that then it’s health related. The mind will always find something to attack. She said yes by the way !! Be open with your love ones they will help you through and be present no matter what happens it’s what you do in the present and now that counts. Hope this helps
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Try to disregard these thoughts and don't follow these thoughts. Believe me if you do ERP now it will save you a lot of suffering..
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Thank you rbheaton for telling me this❤️ I am so confused right now so thank you for the tips!
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I have it also...its a fucked up feeling. Sometimes i think to myself and say if i was gay , I would just come out and be gay but thats not the case. I was sexually molested as a child and adolescent , so the thoughts of me being are whats annoying to me even though i know im NOT! Im not trying to prove to myself that im not gay I just want the thoughts to stop!
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My subconscious mind is on some other shit!!! My conscious mind knows for a fact that im Straight. I like girls alot and how they make me feel. These thoughts are ANNOYING as Fuck!!!
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I dont know if this will help or not because I dont know how long you guys have been struggling with this (the longer you obsess, the more intense the obsession is.) Like I said, when I was in highschool I obsessed over this for months. It made me so sick and so upset I actually had a detachment episode in the middle of school. One day I finally decided, "who cares if I'm gay?" And accepted the POSSIBILITY of it. After that, I was able to get past it. This can be difficult however if you've been struggling with it for years. I have been struggling with ROCD for over a year and its difficult for me to accept certain things. But when I relax I am more able to accept my fears. I hope that all made sense lol
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Yes
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I have this! It’s horrible but I know how you feel
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What sort of ERP have you done for it out of interest? What exercises have worked best for you?
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Been there @PaperchaserLb, had the same experience. Had a little hocd, but POCD was the worst. Again feels like it comes from the subconscious. Like you I know what I’m after. Do you notice any of the thoughts recreate past adverse experiences or is it just questions? I’ve had both but find thoughts replicating past abuse stick the most for me. I also find it fucking annoying now rather than scary. It’s irritating when it likes to tarnish erotic/intimate moments with the other half. And don’t get me started general sexual ocd aspects?
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Im a 21 year old female in a straight relationship with the best guy a girl could ever ask for. About 2 months ago, I went to get coffee with a friend and as I dropped her off, I got a “weird” vibe from her and the look she gave me which lead to the thought of “should I kiss her”….Ive never had a thought like that before and I never have ever wanted to kiss another girl. I have also never had a desire to be with another girl (sexually or romantically). Now though, I have had one other experience of being with a different friend going to get lunch and it felt weird. Ever since then I have been on google non stop with hundreds of different searches, questioning if im lying to myself of my boyfriend, wondering about my past relationships even though Ive only dated boys, been attracted to boys, crushed on boys, etc… boy crazy! Reading on other forums has been a big thing too or doing quizzes. I believe its SO-OCD but im so scared that what if its not. I am in therapy and actually had two weeks of not even thinking about it or googling it until yesterday. I dont know what to do.
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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