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This is called homosexual OCD, a lot of people have this on the app. When I was in highschool I thought I was gay and I freaked fir months. You should look it up. Understanding your OCD is this first step in getting better in my opinion :).
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I have been in a incredible relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years I recently asked her to marry me. I have had these thoughts all my life if it’s not sexuality thoughts then its relationship thoughts of it’s not that then it’s harm if not that then it’s health related. The mind will always find something to attack. She said yes by the way !! Be open with your love ones they will help you through and be present no matter what happens it’s what you do in the present and now that counts. Hope this helps
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Try to disregard these thoughts and don't follow these thoughts. Believe me if you do ERP now it will save you a lot of suffering..
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Thank you rbheaton for telling me this❤️ I am so confused right now so thank you for the tips!
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I have it also...its a fucked up feeling. Sometimes i think to myself and say if i was gay , I would just come out and be gay but thats not the case. I was sexually molested as a child and adolescent , so the thoughts of me being are whats annoying to me even though i know im NOT! Im not trying to prove to myself that im not gay I just want the thoughts to stop!
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My subconscious mind is on some other shit!!! My conscious mind knows for a fact that im Straight. I like girls alot and how they make me feel. These thoughts are ANNOYING as Fuck!!!
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I dont know if this will help or not because I dont know how long you guys have been struggling with this (the longer you obsess, the more intense the obsession is.) Like I said, when I was in highschool I obsessed over this for months. It made me so sick and so upset I actually had a detachment episode in the middle of school. One day I finally decided, "who cares if I'm gay?" And accepted the POSSIBILITY of it. After that, I was able to get past it. This can be difficult however if you've been struggling with it for years. I have been struggling with ROCD for over a year and its difficult for me to accept certain things. But when I relax I am more able to accept my fears. I hope that all made sense lol
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Yes
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I have this! It’s horrible but I know how you feel
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What sort of ERP have you done for it out of interest? What exercises have worked best for you?
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Been there @PaperchaserLb, had the same experience. Had a little hocd, but POCD was the worst. Again feels like it comes from the subconscious. Like you I know what I’m after. Do you notice any of the thoughts recreate past adverse experiences or is it just questions? I’ve had both but find thoughts replicating past abuse stick the most for me. I also find it fucking annoying now rather than scary. It’s irritating when it likes to tarnish erotic/intimate moments with the other half. And don’t get me started general sexual ocd aspects?
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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