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I can totally relate. I feel like my parents are the reason I have ocd in the first place. They instilled shameful values and wrong values in me and so when I grew up, I grew up thinking that they were right. And now I’m dealing with the consequences of their actions. It sucks. But they didn’t mean to hurt you.
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My parents still don’t really think I have ocd so I totally understand what you’re going through. I feel like if they just listen to me and accept that I have a problem I could get some actual help
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I can definitely relate. When I was a kid, I straight up told my parents “I think I might have OCD.” They said “no, you’re fine,” so I went more than 20 years without a diagnosis. On top of that, my mother has anxiety/other undiagnosed issues I’m sure have contributed to my anxiety over the years. Upon learning about my diagnosis my mother said “you don’t have any OCD symptoms. You’re not violent, are you?” My parents are great and I love them, but I do feel resentment for all of this and it makes me feel really, really guilty. Sorry I don’t have any advice but what you’re saying definitely sounds familiar.
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I don’t think a lot of people understand how serious OCD is so maybe they really didn’t understand the severity of the situsituation. I’ve gone through this stage of anger and I just realized that people do NOT understand it. They classify it as being neat and tidy and clearly it’s not that. I wish more people understood :/
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My sister was diagnosed with ocd at a young age. Her manifestations were very external: verbal checks, panic attacks that took the form of violent tantrums. Mine manifested in completely different ways to hers: scruples, anorexia, perfectionism, profound shame about my sexuality. It took till my twenties to get diagnosed and helped.
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Can you explain what you mean by shame about sexuality?
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@takingdownocd I was ashamed of my desires, my body, and I still struggle with feeling guilty about sex. I also had/have intrusive sexual thoughts and nightmares about people I’d never want to have sex with, ie children, friends, family members. And I was terrified I was gay. Turns out, I’m actually bi...it took a while to distinguish that from the ocd stuff and get over being ashamed of it.
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@babbie I see I’m going through something similar. Is it the intrusive thoughts that make you feel guilty about sex?
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@takingdownocd Yes, as well as general shame around my body/desires stemming from religious hangups. It’s tough growing up in a religion that prizes celibacy.
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@babbie My exact issue. Have you seen a therapist about it?
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@takingdownocd I have, although I think I could stand to address it again more in-depth. I have to let my bank account recharge for a few more months though first heh.
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@takingdownocd Do you mind me asking what sort of religious stuff ended up being a problem for you?
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@babbie No prob and yes being gay and reading people on internet saying negative things about that basically. Hbu?
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That’s me I have the same issue but my parents don’t know about it. I’ve suffered for 7 years and regret not seeing a therapist as a child.
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I relate as well. I told my mother about it and she ignored it. I'm trying to look for help on my own. Unfortunately not everybody understand OCD so it's difficult for others to understand us. All I can say is that don't sparks resentment towards your parents. They just don't understand. You not alone.
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Thanks I like to think I’m not alone. I’ve never met someone who has my extent or ocd and I worry that I’m not normal and going crazy. I want to talk to someone bout it but don’t wanna be a burden to my parents
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@louisa12345 Yeah, I feel the same. Just be yourself and understand yourself a bit more. Do not call yourself crazy, actually you are brave and trying your best in something that is not easy to deal with.
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@anyo19 Like I experience it everyday Now that it’s gone on for years will it ever get better? I seem so crazy and not normal because of these obsessions, thoughts and complusions I do everyday. I’m happy that I’m not the only one going through this
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I'm 15 turning 16 soon and I'm 100 percent convinced I have ocd.. I have been having major symptoms since I was 13, the constant what ifs, rumination, compulsions, guilt, anxiety from intrusive thoughts. I tried to open up about it to my parents when i was 13 but they dismissed it cause they don't believe in mental health.. I really want to get better. My parents won't listen to me and I don't wanna tell a teacher at school cause that would make things worse as they would just tell my parents and obviously since I'm 15 I can't afford therapy.. I don't know what to do :(
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Anyone else raised by a parent who has undiagnosed OCPD? I just discovered what the diagnosis is, and I am certain I had a caregiver as a child with it. It greatly shaped my OCD and why I have OCD in the first place. I’d love to hear your story and relationship to that person as a child and adult.
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I’m kind of frustrated because for YEARS I’ve been trying to express my concerns. For about 6-7 years I’ve been concerned about having OCD. I’m not diagnosed and I want to talk to a professional to confirm whether or not I have it. I have been struggling with several symptoms over many years of my life and it has been absolutely distressing. I’ve expressed my concerns to two doctors. One of them pretended like they didn’t hear me and the other did give me scenarios that I experience. When I said yes to the ones that applied to me, she said “well it’s very normal for people to wash their hands a lot and check door locks” well yeah but what I experience is so much more than that and it’s been absolutely horrendous. I have super bad compulsions and intrusive thoughts, at some point I broke a TV because I felt like I had to throw these little coasters at it for 5 times. And then after those 5 times, the way I threw it didn’t feel right, so I had to do it again and again until it felt right and then it broke :/ The doctor later told me that they can recommend me to professionals but my mom didn’t want me to because of fear that I can get medicated. But I just want to talk to a professional to be able to express my concerns about it. I also feel bad about talking about what I experience because I don’t want people to think that I’m trying to self diagnose myself. I just want to be able to recognize my struggles and try to overcome what I go through. All I want is help. At some point I went to therapy and I had three sessions and then my mom pulled me out. But in those sessions I haven’t talked about my struggles with OCD yet, I was talking about other issues and my therapist was still trying to get to know me. :( Sometimes when I’ve talked to my parents they don’t really try to listen. Sometimes they tell me “well everyone has a little bit of OCD”. Okay, well I’m not talking about everyone, I’m talking about ME. And back when I struggled so much with violent intrusive thoughts, it was also a time where I felt like I HAD to tell my parents about every thought that I had. And my parents were concerned and thought that I was just in general violent. But I’m not violent, I don’t believe these things. And they STILL don’t want to hear me out on my concerns after all of that. I just want to feel validated with what I go through. I am convinced that I struggle with OCD, but I want to be SURE. I don’t want to feel like I’m self diagnosing. I want to KNOW what I’ve been experiencing all these years. I really do like this app because I feel like I finally relate to other people and that I can REALLY talk about my struggles while being understood. Whether or not if I do have it, I feel really understood and I really understand and relate with others. But anyways I hope I can figure this whole thing out one day😓🙏
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