I really struggle to say no. I feel like I’m responsible for everyone’s happiness and safety and if I say no then they’ll be upset and might hurt themselves. I know how silly that sounds but I can’t help feeling this way. I’m exhausted and I need to put myself first- please help

I think a lot of people with OCD feel this way. It helps me to remember that I don't owe anyone shit and I've obvi got my own problems to deal with! I still get walked all over sometimes when I let it slip, but being very clear helps. Sometimes I literally say "my therapist told me to work on my boundaries, let's see if this works: NO!" And then it's clear while using humor and logic to let people down

You are not silly! That is exactly what I struggle with! You are not alone! Do you all see therapy for ocd?

I feel the same way A LOT. I can’t say no because they’ll be mad at me, and I can’t handle that. Here are some good boundaries I have printed and use often: 1. It is not my job to fix others 2. It is ok if others get angry 3. It is ok to say no 4. It is not my job to take responsibility for others 5. I don’t have to anticipate the needs of others 6. It is my job to make me happy 7. Nobody has to agree with me 8. I have a right to my own feelings 9. I am enough

Thank you guys I’m glad I’m not the only one and thanks so much for all those boundaries cat!

isnt silly i know that ...but i get it. I dont know if you its same but i use to be nice with people who arent same way with me?

At least I try to!