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- Aliceisdirty
- Date posted
- 6y ago
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- TayTay
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I think a lot of people with OCD feel this way. It helps me to remember that I don't owe anyone shit and I've obvi got my own problems to deal with! I still get walked all over sometimes when I let it slip, but being very clear helps. Sometimes I literally say "my therapist told me to work on my boundaries, let's see if this works: NO!" And then it's clear while using humor and logic to let people down
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- LilyLily
- Date posted
- 6y ago
You are not silly! That is exactly what I struggle with! You are not alone! Do you all see therapy for ocd?
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- CatCat
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I feel the same way A LOT. I can’t say no because they’ll be mad at me, and I can’t handle that. Here are some good boundaries I have printed and use often: 1. It is not my job to fix others 2. It is ok if others get angry 3. It is ok to say no 4. It is not my job to take responsibility for others 5. I don’t have to anticipate the needs of others 6. It is my job to make me happy 7. Nobody has to agree with me 8. I have a right to my own feelings 9. I am enough
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- AliceisdirtyAliceisdirty
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Thank you guys I’m glad I’m not the only one and thanks so much for all those boundaries cat!
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- BeaBea
- Date posted
- 6y ago
isnt silly i know that ...but i get it. I dont know if you its same but i use to be nice with people who arent same way with me?
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- CatCat
- Date posted
- 6y ago
At least I try to!
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- Alyosha
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m not very good at telling people what I want, need, think, feel, or “No.” It’s hard to grow up in a family where you’re told you’re the argumentative, brazen fighter who’s too bold only to learn as an adult that this isn’t true, that you’re codependent and can’t speak your mind and can’t tell anybody “no” until finally you just break down crying in your car in the parking lot because you’re so tired of being invisible and unheard and used.
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- Smansu99
- Date posted
- 1y ago
People pleasing
I’ve always been the type of person who would say yes to basically everything anyone asked because I know how it feels to be told no. I think this from a very young age is starting to effect me now since I literally don’t have any boundaries with anyone. Especially with my mom. It’s like I have mental boundaries and I get angry at her for crossing them but I’m reality I haven’t actually tried to speak to her about it and just keep it bottled up. So I guess I can say I have invisible boundaries, and feel like I’m not being nice if I tell someone about those boundaries.
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- JamesMY
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Tired of caring?
Anyone here get tired of feeling hyper responsible and having to care about everything?
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