This might sound weird but can any Christians who believe in saving yourself for marriage talk? I'm really anxious...

It just seems like a lot of Christians I know aren't and it makes me anxious I won't and I feel like I'm judging people and I don't want to I just feel so anxious.

that’s exactly what it is.

I believe it fully. I'm scared I will stop believing it bc others don't or something.

@anyonymous Yeah I understand. I think the fear of not believing it might be indicative of your attachment to the belief. So why do you believe it to the point of fearing it?

@sitwithit247 Oh okay. I don't know. I guess its like when I hear of other Christians or people I knew dont seem to care its like I think "why dont they believe this?" "Am I wrong?" "Are they wrong?" "Am I going to make a mistake and disappoint God or my parents?" I guess its just when my belief is so countercultural, I'm like afraid I will confirm or something. Part of it I guess is probably religious OCD because I am so afraid that I am or will become something that I don't want to.

@anyonymous I get it. I tend to adopt the same form of thinking. I think it’s because I attach myself very intensely to my beliefs and therefore to my decisions and thoughts and behavior. And when one of those beliefs comes into question, I feel as if my whole foundation could potentially crumble. It might be helpful to observe your beliefs within attaching yourself and your safety to them. It’s kinda like giving yourself wiggle room to still be unsure/questioning/learning. I think it’s fundamental to combatting ocd, being okay with uncertainty

@anyonymous This is definitely religious OCD to me. It sounds like the fear of premarital sex is tied to a larger fear about religious doubts and making sure you believe correctly. You have to learn to live in the grey of your faith instead of trying to do it perfectly. It is a very hard thing to do. When I went through my religious OCD theme, it was painful. If I am wrong about my connection to a larger religious theme, I apologize.

I agree. I guess it's just I wish everyone believed that. It feels like no one does not even Christians and it worries me a lot.

@anyonymous Why are you worried? What other people do is not your issue or anything you can ever control.

@Rob21k You're right. I guess maybe I'm afraid of peer pressure? Idk but I took a bath and feel a lot calmer aboit it

@anyonymous Again, this sounds like a deeper fear that you are living or believing correctly. You have control over your actions and if you are afraid of giving into peer pressure, it seems seeded in a fear of doubt. They are just thoughts and you don’t ever have to do something you don’t want to do. Maybe you won’t give into peer pressure, but you’ll change your mind. Maybe not. That’s all okay. You are putting a lot of pressure on yourself or rather your OCD is.