I set myself a target to achieve a certain set of grades last year that I didn’t get. Every time I think of it I get anxiety, when I see other people with the results I wanted I get anxiety. I feel demotivated and dumb and although they were predictions from teachers I’m starting to doubt myself. I feel depressed most of the time and can’t even concentrate on the work I’m doing now. I’m literally starting to fall behind. The worst part is that I was so close, I just can’t be bothered to study all over again especially since I didn’t get what I wanted last time. There’s a girl I like who got amazing grades and she seems so motivated and happy and I wish I could feel like that too but I just can’t . I’m constantly obsessing over it Any advice would help because it’s literally taking over my life (please don’t say grades aren’t everything)

I totally understand 100% did you set a big goal or small- it’s ok to not always achieve what you set for your goal- don’t give up try again but this time set a small goal 1 step at a time. If I didn’t explain well enough please tell me.

Hmmm I see. Ok firstly, I understand that you feel quite let down (in yourself) and it’s taken a kick at your self esteem? Maybe? Especially with school. And now you’ve just gone totally off it because you feel ‘dumber’ / ‘less calable’. But I honestly think you’re being very hard on yourself. It’s okay to not do that well at times. I consider myself smart but I’ve gotten bad grades in things before! One thing that never helps is comparisons. They’re so damaging honestly. Compare yourself to YOURSELF. Maybe just try to work on your confidence with this and then acceptance. Accepting that getting bad grades is okay, and so is getting good ones. That way there’s less of a grip it has over you.

Today was horrible 😐. It’s like everywhere I go people are talking about these tests, And all the people with great grades all seem so motivated and happy. I can’t shake this feeling off and it’s interfering massively with my life.